Abandonment is our earliest fear. It’s primal and universal to all human beings. Fear of abandonment is the unique element of our existence that makes the loss of a job, separation, death of a loved one, and break up or divorce so painful.
When we get close to someone, it can bring to the surface unresolved issues from the past — the very things that we might want to avoid.
Gain self-awareness about your choices in partners and their willingness to meet your emotional and personal needs.
Mistrust can come in many forms, from suspecting partners of infidelity, to fearing that they will abandon you emotionally or physically.
Express your needs clearly and calmly. If you are requesting a change in your relationship, try to make one request at a time so your dad doesn’t feel overwhelmed.
Love means risking occasionally getting your feelings hurt; it’s a price you have to pay for intimacy because you and your partner are being vulnerable with each other.
Trying to change someone is deadly to an intimate relationship.
Never underestimate the power of intentional time with your partner.
Instead of criticizing your partner, remind yourself of all of the things you appreciate about them, and share those things with them.
You don’t have to choose between being a good parent and a good partner.