protecting yourself as an empath

12 Essential Ways You Need To Protect Yourself When You’re An Empath

1. Detachment.

Only what you give your power to can affect you. Thus the best protection of all is prevention. What makes the energy come into you is that you sympathize with others—you want to help them, or you are upset and judgmental of them. You think that they’re not fine and you need to “fix” them somehow. The need to “fix” others is one of the things that creates the energy tunnel between you two, and you take their burden or “flaw” into you and subconsciously you try to heal it. But when you develop (and this takes time, maybe lifetimes) the attitude that everyone is fine, when they go through an issue it’s a learning curve for them then you don’t feel the need to fix them anymore. You help them when they’re ready.

2. Journaling.

The daily habit of journaling is another great way to connect with your innermost self as well as release some stuck energy. We mostly feel the energy in the form of emotions so when you write how you feel down, the energies begin to shift and transform. For example, you can take your journal and write how you feel and how would you like to feel instead and then write; “Dear Universe, remove this for me. Let me see the truth and let my heart stay pure and open.” You’ll see changes in the way you feel because by journaling you’ll release negative emotions and become more stable.

3. Energy vampires.

Like it or not but we all have people in our surroundings who suck our energy. You’ll know it when you feel drained after talking with them. It also happens when someone is envious or jealous of you and they (mostly unconsciously) send you their negative energy. They can even wish you something bad to happen. An emotionally charged intention is powerful, so it’s wise to cut off these people from your life. If you have friends who suck your energy you can cut the cords and then stop being in contact with them. If it’s your family or co-workers then ground yourself before talking with them and try to keep it short and with firm boundaries.

4. Meditation.

There are many ways to meditate. I meditate each morning differently but I also have some longer practices that I keep for an evening routine. Meditation helps you to balance your energy. The more often you do it, the more connected with yourself you feel. So this is a way you can be pro-active and protect your energy. But there are also many ways you can clean your energy in meditation. Find a routine that makes you feel peaceful, focused, and more energized after you finish.

5. Water.

Water purification is widely practiced in Bali but also in many other cultures. The water represents the flowing Earth energy that washes off anything negative from you. You don’t need to have a holy water to do it. You can use a simple shower and infuse the water with your intention to be energetically cleaned. Or you can just imagine standing under a waterfall and as the water streams down your body anything dark and negative is released.

6. A universal vacuum cleaner.

This is a method I frequently use, although, I’m not sure if anyone else does. Nevertheless, it works quickly, and you can use it wherever you are. The way I do it is that I close my eyes, feel into my energy field to see where any stuck or negative energy is and then I imagine a huge universal vacuum cleaner to suck this energy out of my aura. Then I imagine white light to fill in the holes. If you practice it few times then you can learn to do it within a few seconds so you can use it anywhere (even in the middle of a conversation).

7. Send it back.

It’s very likely that more than 90% of your thoughts and emotions don’t belong to you. Our bodies are like big sponges sucking in anything in our environment. Thus we can also send the energy back (you don’t have to know who the sender is) or you send it to the center of the Earth and ask the energy to help you transform it into the light.

8. Kundalini.

Kundalini Yoga or Kundalini Shakti is an excellent way to protect your energy. Kundalini is a spiritual energy or the life force which is located at the end of your spine (the root chakra). Through a regular practice (meditation, special breathing techniques, chanting mantras, and particular hand positions) you awaken Kundalini and learn to work with it and make it stronger.

9. Gemstones.

The protective and healing power of crystals have been used since the beginning of time. Each crystal has a different function and can help you with various life areas. Quartz is the queen because you can use it just for anything. I like to wear a necklace with quartz (from Lapland) over my heart chakra. Especially when I give seminars. If you choose to protect yourself with gemstones, then learn how to take care of them because as they absorb the negative energy, you have to cleanse it off.

10. Shielding yourself.

It’s very popular recommendation in the West to shield your energy. The basic idea is that you imagine some shape around your body (and aura) that keeps you safe from outside energies. You can either imagine an egg or cloak that is made of white light, and it doesn’t let anything negative come to you. But after discussing with Balinese gurus, I’ve realized that this is not always the best solution. They believe that the energy must flow and when you close yourself into this energy cocoon, your own mental and negative energy is getting stuck there, and you can have negative thoughts. So, when you shield yourself, imagine that there is a hole above your head for the light to come in and for anything negative coming from you to leave. You can also have a hole above your feet, so the energy flows naturally but keeps the protection “walls” on other places surrounding your body. With your intention you allow the good to come it as well as your negative energy to leave, but the outside negative energy is not allowed to come in.

11. Nature. Nature is the best healer.

If you have an opportunity to go the forest or park, you’ll feel calmer and more grounded. You can sit by a tree, close your eyes, and imagine that the negative energy is leaving your body and you connect with the ground under your feet. You can even walk barefoot (very recommended) and feel the sensations it gives you. For the energy to stay balanced, you must ground yourself regularly.

12. Time alone.

Every empath needs time alone. This doesn’t change with family or any other commitments. Sometimes we have to disappear from the surface of the world to rejuvenate ourselves. I know that many of us have other people who “need” us. But when you’re alone, the energy that you’ve absorbed from other people naturally disappears (if you don’t actively feel into the problems of your friends). So you balance yourself, and then you have a greater capacity to give love to others. The time alone should be used consciously and wisely. Use this time to read an inspirational book, meditate, journal, dance, or do something creative. Some people say that this is the last instance, I say that this is needed regardless.

Choose techniques that make you feel peaceful and more balanced. Don’t be afraid to experiment and remember that being an empath requires certain commitments to yourself. If you don’t protect yourself you can create a lot of chaos in your life and also for the ones you love. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

About the author

Sylvia Salow

I’m a spiritual life coach, TEDx speaker, and author. Embody Your Soul