(March 21st to April 19th)
Because you looked at love as something that would only hold you back.
Instead of looking at love as something that adds to your life, you only saw it as something that would stifle you or disrupt you from living the life you want to live. You still haven’t allowed yourself to believe that – with the right person – love is actually something that lifts you up, supports you, encourages you, and even carries you when you’re struggling. On the contrary, you’re convinced that falling in love means you have to give up your adventurous and exciting lifestyle, when in reality, love only makes everything more exciting when you’ve found the right person for yourself.
(April 20th to May 21st)
Because you wanted love to follow one, controllable, predictable formula – even though it never, ever does.
Even though you’re a sincerely loving and warm person, you yourself have struggled to fall in love – but only because you’ve wanted to control every aspect of how it happens and how it pans out. Because of your need for security and serenity, you have had (and still have) a hard time accepting the fact that love is crazy, unpredictable, and all over the place. Instead of giving into the process and enjoying the thrill of it all once you know you’ve found the right person, you can’t get around your need to control the process and plan it out yourself. The reason you didn’t fall in love in 2017 is because you wanted to write the story ahead of time, instead of coming to terms with the fact that love is a spontaneous, ever-changing story that involves two very different and independent minds.
(May 22nd to June 21st)
Because you aren’t letting yourself believe that you deserve a true, genuine, and happiness-inducing connection with another person.
As fun and seemingly carefree as you appear to be, you are actually incredibly hard on yourself. You won’t give yourself permission to let someone into your life, even if you can tell that they’re the type of person you could actually be yourself around. While you’re great at ‘going with the flow’ and always embracing the fun of situations, you haven’t yet learned how to be truly vulnerable with another person.
(June 22nd to July 22nd)
Because you let the little things get to you.
When it comes to love, you are admirably open and tender. Your problem is that you let yourself get upset by small things that, while relatively harmless in and of themselves, end up causing your relationships harm because of your reactions to them. It’s very important that you have standards and that you remember you are deserving of someone great – that should never change. But you need to work on being understanding of your significant other’s flaws, and of the fact that they might possibly emote differently than you, and that not everyone will be sensitive of the same things you will be sensitive about. If your partner is a few minutes late to dinner, or if they have trouble expressing their feelings easily on the first try, it doesn’t mean they don’t love you. It’s just something they’re still working on. When you learn to not waste energy on the little things, you’ll be a lot happier in love.
(July 23rd to August 22nd)
Because you let your ego run your relationships for you.
Rather than letting your natural warmth and charm take over, you got too caught up in trying to plan out your relationships in accordance with the rest of your life timeline. You always wanted your relationships to be perfect, and to follow a certain guideline, and to work in a way that was best for you, instead of remembering that dating and relationships are things that are made up of two souls on two journeys.
(August 23rd to September 22nd)
Because you spent too much time living inside your own head and not enough time focusing on the people in front of you.
You let yourself focus too much on why things wouldn’t work out with someone, or on trying to find enough shortcomings in them to have an excuse to move on (mostly because you wanted an excuse to wall yourself off). Even though your brain convinced you that you were doing this to ‘protect’ yourself, all you were really doing was looking for reasons not to let yourself be happy, because all the ‘what if’s’ and the unpredictability of love were too frightening to you that you weren’t willing to risk it, even if it meant incredible happiness was waiting on the other side.
(September 23rd to October 22nd)
Because you wanted too many things at once.
You wanted the comfort and reassurance of a long-term significant other, while also having the thrill and giddiness of a brand new fling, while also never missing out on a social event, while also putting 100% of yourself into a career – and all of that at once is simply not possible. You didn’t find love in 2017 because you weren’t yet ready to make small sacrifices for another person, and you haven’t yet realized that falling in love and committing yourself to one person does not mean that you have to give up your independent life, your friends, or your sense of fun – you can absolutely strike a balance between both, you just have to work on it.
(October 23rd to November 22nd)
Because you wanted to keep a large part of yourself hidden, but you wanted the other person to be an open book.
You didn’t fall in love in 2017 and you didn’t find the one because your outlook on dating wasn’t fair. You wanted to have your secrets, and your privacy, and your separateness – but you also wanted the other person to be 100% available, open, and ready at your beck and call so that you never had to worry about jealousy or insecurity. You haven’t yet figured out a way to strike a healthy balance in your dating life, and until you do, you’ll continue to be single.
(November 23rd to December 21st)
Because you didn’t make active choices in your own love life.
Your optimism and sense of positivity are great – but they can also mean that sometimes you are too passive, carefree, and ‘whatever’ about your love life. You’re wonderful and fun to be around, but you have always waited for the other person to be the brave one – to be vulnerable and to stick their neck out first. Until you start stepping it up and making active decisions for your own dating life, you’re not going to find the right person.
(December 22nd to January 20th)
Because you didn’t actually prioritize love.
Your ambition and your focus on your career are admirable qualities, and it’s fine to be channeling everything towards your work if you don’t care about falling in love right now. But if you’re starting to get lonely and you’re starting to feel frustrated about the fact that you’re not meeting anyone, you need to be willing to make some adjustments. You have to be willing to make room for someone in your life, to prioritize them, to not make them compete with your career. You can strike a fair and healthy balance between work and love, you just have to actually try first.
(January 21st to February 18th)
Because you refused to go below the surface level with anyone when it came to emotional connection.
Rather than letting yourself experience the joy and delight of risking your heart and opening up to someone who truly made you happy, you kept yourself distanced and shut off from every person who tried to get close to you. You confused having standards with being totally detached from every person who tried to show you their heart. Until you learn that you can’t find genuine joy without a little risk too, you’re going to continue to remain alone.
(February 19th to March 20th)
Because you were afraid of looking at love practically.
There is nothing wrong with being optimistic and hopeful. But your struggle came from looking at love as something that should always be perfect, romantic, and flawless. You got scared away any time things got too comfortable, or you realized someone wasn’t absolutely perfect, or the relationship – though wonderful – wasn’t happening the same way you imagined it would. Your imagination is wonderful, but with love, you need to be careful that it doesn’t distract you from finding something real because you’re too caught up on finding something that only exists in a storybook.