(March 21st to April 19th)
Stop thinking it’s cute to be flighty and noncommittal all the time. You can still be a spontaneous and adventurous person while also being a responsible, dependable, and loyal person and friend.
(April 20th to May 21st)
Stop secretly holding people’s past mistakes and screwups against them. You’re allowed to hold people to a high standard and to expect to be treated with decency and respect, but you’re not allowed to constantly bring up friends’ or partners’ past wrongdoings over and over again after they’ve already apologized and rectified their mistakes.
(May 22nd to June 21st)
Stop obsessing so, so, so much about what everyone else thinks about you – because to be honest, people are too busy to spend that much time thinking about you. It’s okay that sometimes you’re insecure and self-conscious; we all are. But if you continue to worry about what other people think every time you make even the tiniest decision, you’re going to live a life that only becomes more and more miserable.
(June 22nd to July 22nd)
Stop clinging onto people who only hurt you and take you for granted and cause you pain over and over again. There’s a difference between being loyal and loving to those who need you during low times, and being overly forgiving to people who have hurt you so many times that they absolutely don’t deserve to be in your life anymore.
(July 23rd to August 22nd)
Stop assuming that you always have the best idea or the best way of doing things. You’re allowed to be proud of and confident in your creativity and your work ethic, but you’re not allowed to act like you should always have the final say in anything and everything.
(August 23rd to September 22nd)
Stop trying to find problems where there are none. Your intellectual and analytical side can be an incredible asset but can also get you into trouble – you should always challenge yourself to try harder and think harder and grow more, but you should never live a life in which you only tell yourself that you’re not good enough and that you’ll never be good enough.
(September 23rd to October 22nd)
Stop confusing popularity with true belonging. You’ll always be someone who has a ton of friends and who is easily loved by most people you meet, but you need to make sure you’re putting time, effort, and love into the relationships and friendships that truly mean the most to you, with the people who are always there for you no matter what – instead of worrying about trying to be buddy-buddy with people who you won’t even be thinking about in six months from now.
(October 23rd to November 22nd)
Stop keeping things from the people who actually want to help you and be there for you. There is nothing honorable about trying to live your life separated and sectioned off from your loved ones. So continue being the determined force that you are, but stop convincing yourself that you have to make it through the hard moments (and the good moments) on your own.
(November 23rd to December 21st)
Stop assuming that everything will take care of itself. You should continue to be the bright, optimistic, and positive-thinking person that you are, but that doesn’t mean that you should just be passive about your life and assume that things will always come to you, instead of trying to make things happen on your own.
(December 22nd to January 20th)
Stop trying to ‘protect’ yourself by being fatalistic and always assuming the worst. You’re not doing your love life or your career or any part of your personal life any good by just assuming you won’t get that promotion or you won’t meet the love of your life – that’s only going to keep you trapped in a well of negative thinking in which you never go anywhere.
(January 21st to February 18th)
Stop convincing yourself that being emotionally detached is the equivalent of being safe and happy – because it’s actually the opposite. Being emotionally vulnerable in front of another person is scary, but it’s the only way you’ll ever truly experience real love.
(February 19th to March 20th)
Stop allowing other people’s opinions to dictate how you feel about yourself and your life. It’s time to stop asking permission to do what you want or to think how you want to think – if you want to be happy, you need to start deciding things and making choices for yourself.