10 Little Changes You Can Make That Will Instantly Change Your Life For The Better

happiness and change
Brooke Cagle

1. Don’t take things personally. Your boss continually fails to say thank you while you bust your ass tirelessly every day to please her, your friend babbles about his first world problems without pausing for a moment to ask how you are, and to top it all off the barista puts dairy in your latte when you asked for soya.

It’s easy to get offended every second of every day if you allow yourself to take other people’s actions as personal stabs at your heart.

Much better to shake things off in the moment and remember that no one is out to get you – they’ve got way better things to do with their time.

2. Do everything with love. It’s true what they say – how you do one thing is how you do everything.

So whether you’re cleaning your apartment, working on a huge project at work or you’re cooking yourself dinner – don’t half-ass it, give it all that you’ve got and soon enough you’ll apply this attitude to all that you do without even thinking about it.

And it feels so much better when you infuse as much passion and soul into your day as you can.

3. Believe in yourself. You can have all the goals and dreams that you want but if you don’t believe in yourself it’s unlikely you’ll be able to achieve them.

Self-belief is about 70% of the battle and what’s probably standing in the way of you and what you want most.

Remember, if you don’t believe in yourself, who the hell else will?

4. Face up to your fears. Nobody is fearless, not even those insane people who swallow knives for fun.

There will always be a fresh boat of fears ready to fill you up and hold you back from living your life to the full.

Question is, are you going to stand back and let that happen or are you going to step up and stare them down?

Chances are when you finally do muster the courage to confront your deepest fears, you’ll look back at them and realize your imagination was magnifying your worries, and it wasn’t nearly as bad as you thought it would be.

5. Demand integrity from yourself. When you don’t stay true to yourself and what you believe in, you’re essentially telling yourself that what you think doesn’t matter and that other people’s opinions hold more weight than your own.

When you make a point of speaking your truth and fighting for what you believe to be right, the easier it’ll be to do it again, and you’ll finally feel at peace within your heart.

The truth will set you free.

6. Quit comparing yourself to others. It doesn’t matter if someone has a better job than you, makes more money than you, or is having tonnes of fun traveling the world while you’re stuck in the same old town, because none of those people are you.

Stop looking around at what others are doing. You are on your own unique path here and where you are right now is exactly where you need to be. Your time will come.

7. Let go of what you can’t control. There are so many things we continue to stress over in this life that are ultimately way out of our control, like other people’s actions and opinions of us and what our future holds.

Worrying about all of these things won’t help and it’s only cluttering up valuable space in your mind which could be devoted to so many better thoughts.

Let go of the uncontrollable.

8. Be grateful. There is an abundance to be thankful for in our lives, if only we take a moment to stop, look around and notice it.

Before you go to bed each night, find at least three things to be grateful for that day and watch how even the day from hell starts to shine a little brighter.

9. Learn to see the glass as half-full. When you think negatively you’re subconsciously attracting more negative energy into your life. And nobody wants that.

On the other hand, when you think positively you’ll naturally feel better about yourself and your current situation and you’ll be a magnet for more joy and happiness to bloom in your world.

10. Forgive yourself and others. You won’t always make the right choices because you’re human, and all of us are riddled with imperfections. But when we make mistakes they teach us something valuable we needed to learn and ultimately they help us to grow.

So the next time you fuck up, learn your lesson but don’t cling on to your disappointment or shame. Forgive yourself and remember to offer others that same forgiveness because they’re human just like you. TC mark

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