Shahida Arabi
Graduate of Columbia and Harvard
Bestselling Author
Published Researcher
Shahida Arabi is a graduate of Columbia University and Harvard University. She is a published researcher on narcissism and the bestselling author of Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself, featured as a #1 Amazon Bestseller for 16 consecutive months after its release, and Power: Surviving and Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse, featured as a #1 Amazon Bestseller in Applied Psychology.
Her work has been featured on Salon, HuffPost, Inc., Bustle, Psychology Today, Healthline, VICE, NYDaily News and more.
Her latest book, The Highly Sensitive Person’s Guide to Dealing with Toxic People, is available in all major bookstores and has been translated into 16 languages. At Harvard, she conducted the first large-scale research study on PTSD and relationship partners with narcissistic and psychopathic traits.
In addition to being a high-traffic journalist featured on numerous popular magazines and websites as well as an internationally bestselling author, Shahida has eight years of extensive experience in marketing, content creation, editing, and bringing viral organic traffic for media brands and businesses across social media platforms such as Instagram, Facebook, TikTok, YouTube, and more. She is a sought after influencer and writer for brands related to wellness, psychology, health, education, and pop culture.
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Real love and compassion aren’t about forgiving and forgetting your way through numerous transgressions, violations or betrayals. The most compassionate thing you can do for a toxic person is to hold them accountable for changing their harmful behaviors – and the most compassionate thing you can do for yourself is letting them go if they do not.
Shahida Arabi, Power: Surviving and Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse
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4 Movies About Toxic Limerence
When I first wrote about limerence back in 2018, many readers resonated with the idea of being in a “fantasy relationship” – becoming obsessed and fixated on a toxic relationship or “situationship” that is often unrequited, harmful, incompatible in some…
Why Men and Women Can’t Be “Just Friends”
The age-old concern continues to plague us: can men and women really be “just friends?” In cases where there is no form of attraction on either side, it is absolutely possible!
When Narcissists Say These 6 Phrases In Romantic Relationships, Here’s What They Really Mean
A researcher specializing in narcissism and psychopathy notes the six phrases you may hear from narcissists in romantic relationships and what they really mean.
Why Men Disappear Even When They Want You
For the most part, a man disappearing or withdrawing attention from you after showing extreme interest and attraction sends a mixed signal but a clear one: they are not the one for you.
8 Sci-Fi Romance Movies That Defy Time And Space (And Will Alter Your Brain Chemistry)
Sometimes love defies time and space — at least it does in science fiction romantic drama films.
Why Your Toxic Ex Comes Back When You No Longer Want Them
Ever wonder why that toxic and narcissistic ex-partner kept reaching out to you, long after the relationship had ended? Or why they seemed to make attempts to provoke you after the break-up?
12 Power Plays Narcissists Use To Gaslight You
The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene is one of the most famous books of all time.
7 Dating Power Moves That Protect Women Against Narcissists
Men and women can both be narcissists, but women tend to experience specific risks in the dating world. Here are ways they can protect themselves from manipulation, according to a researcher specializing in narcissism and psychopathy.
Signs Your Boyfriend Is Toxic
Toxicity exists on a spectrum, but there is a set of tell-tale behaviors that can point to a core lack of empathy, entitlement, and exploitativeness that can be harmful to relationships.
This Jennifer Lawrence Thriller Is The Most Controversial Romance Movie of All Time
I never thought that an action and adventure rom-com movie starring Jennifer Lawrence and Chris Pratt would be one of the most darkly romantic movies I’ve ever seen, but here we are.
Narcissists Target Women With These 5 Surprising Traits For Romantic Relationships
Here are five surprising traits narcissists look for in their partners, according to a researcher specializing in narcissism and psychopathy.
5 Toxic Movie Couples We Call “Romance Goals” But Are Actually Just Trauma Bonds
A trauma bond is an inextricable bond we develop to the people who subject us to a combination of danger, seduction, betrayal, and a cyclical pattern of hot-and-cold behavior where kindness is mixed with cruelty in a relationship where a…
People Who Seem “Charming” But Are Actually Psychopaths Display These 3 Subtle Behaviors
A researcher specializing in narcissism and psychopathy reveals the three subtle behaviors that reveal the motives and characteristics of people with psychopathic traits.
Men Who Pretend To Be ‘Nice Guys’ But Are Actually Narcissistic Display These 3 Subtle Behaviors
People who use the “nice guy” persona to charm and manipulate others but are actually narcissistic display these three subtle behaviors, according to a researcher specializing in narcissism and psychopathy.
4 Signs He Doesn’t Have An Avoidant Attachment Style, He’s Just A Narcissist
These are the signs they don’t have an avoidant attachment style, they’re actually narcissistic, according to a researcher specializing in narcissism and psychopathy.
Signs He’s Not In Love, He’s Love Bombing You
Here are the red flags you may be experiencing a manipulation tactic known as love bombing, according to a researcher specializing in narcissism and psychopathy. Love bombing is a manipulative tactic associated with narcissistic traits.
Psychopathic and Narcissistic Women Display These 4 Sadistic Behaviors In Relationships
A female narcissist or female psychopath (a rarer occurrence) is someone who hides behind a seemingly sweet-tempered demeanor, moral absolutism, and haughtiness to conceal her true lack of empathy, contempt, callousness, and condescending bullying behaviors.
Break Up With Your Boyfriend If You See These 3 Signs
Sometimes it’s time to break up with a partner who is mistreating you. Here are the three signs you need to do so immediately. There’s a presence of any kind of verbal or emotional abuse.
