Most all contact is initiated by you, the woman, unless he’s asking you out to the bar, or starting to get frisky while writing his paper on late 19th century German thought.
Mental illness and low self-esteem are terrible things. But it seems that the movement to de-stigmatize them has gotten horrifically confused with a movement to romanticize them. And that is dangerously tragic in itself.
With arguments and breakups happening over text so often, it also makes it easier for people to escape. You no longer have to see your SO’s tears or hear the quiver in their voice when you screw up, and that’s not a good thing.