The Brutally Honest Truth About Your 'Almost Relationship'
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The Brutally Honest Truth About Your ‘Almost Relationship’

You deserve better than an “almost relationship.” I’ll be the one to lay this out on the table… Your “almost relationship” is a NOT relationship. You aren’t with that person. You aren’t dating that person. This person flirts with you, they may give you the good morning, good night texts, they may tell you that you’re beautiful, you’re stunning, they miss you, they care about you, they might be saying all the right things – but they’re not in the relationship with you.

Do not dedicate yourself to an “almost.” You’re “almost” dating. How long have you been almost dating? How long have you almost been with this person? How long are you going to almost be with this person? It’s been months now? Why aren’t you actually in this relationship? He/She’s been flirting with you nonstop for months. Get up off the floor of delusion and walk away.

You don’t deserve to be an almost, you deserve to be in the relationship. You deserve someone that is proud to call you theirs. You deserve someone that is happy that you’re their person. Someone that puts you in the “almost” zone – no. That’s not enough. That’s not good enough, and you should never consider it to be something that’s good enough. In fact, when you’re looking at the relationship, don’t even look at it as someone that’s JUST “good enough.”

You deserve the f*cking best. You deserve someone that looks at you with pride in their eyes, and nothing but desire, love, happiness, excitement. Be with that person. Be with the person that sees you for what you are, a masterpiece. Anyone that can look at you and see that you are worth it – more than worth it – anyone that can look at you and see that you are worth the world, they’re the one that deserves you.

An “almost relationship” is a waste of your time. That’s the hard pill to swallow, but it’s the truth. It’s a waste of your time to be with someone that sees you as an “almost.” What even IS it to be an “almost relationship.” Maybe I might be going a little crazy here but if something is almost happening, that means that it’s NOT happening. It means that it’s incomplete – is it ever going to be complete? It could be, but as of right now? No, it’s not complete.

You deserve happiness, love, excitement, and dedication. Loyalty, honesty, and commitment are extremely important things in any relationship. Step back. Take a look at your relationship. Take a look at what’s happening and ask yourself what you feel. Are you happy? Do you have loyalty? Is there commitment? If there’s commitment then why is it an almost? If all of these things are on the table, why is it an almost?

I’ve always hated that term – it’s not an almost relationship. It’s flirting. You are flirting with another person. Who’s to say that he/she’s not flirting with someone else at the same time? Are you really really sure? You don’t know what’s going on with this person when you’re smiling at the text screen. How many other people are pausing to smile at the same text from the same person? Do you know the answer to that? You cannot guarantee anything on this.

Even if they were texting sweet things to someone else, is there even the right to be upset? To be angry? Think about this. You deserve better than an “almost.” You aren’t someone to put on the back burner. You aren’t an “almost.” You are a person and a beautiful one at that. Remember, please, please remember that you deserve so much better than an “almost” relationship. TC mark

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