Sabrina Bendory

Why are breakups so hard? Every day, in my inbox, on my Facebook and Instagram accounts, and in person from my friends, I am hit with stories of heartbreak and emotional devastation.

I’m going to share a story because I find stories to be the best way to illustrate a point. Years ago, I met a guy who I thought was absolutely perfect for me.

Hi, my name is Sabrina and I’m a recovering Damage Case addict. What’s that you ask? OK let’s back up. I’m going to share a story, my favorite way to illustrate a point.

I think getting over a guy you never actually dated is harder than getting over a breakup. At least with someone you were in a relationship with, you were there.

Ghosting is the new “calling” to break up with someone. Isn’t it funny that calling to break up was once considered bad form?

Here’s what ruins relationships more than anything else. It’s not what you look like, it’s not that you texted him back too quickly or used too many emojis… it’s stressing over the relationship.

I’ve been writing about relationships for nearly a decade now, and my life has shifted dramatically during that time.

If a man doesn’t want you, you should never have to plead your case and convince him otherwise. Storytime!

The one thing I’ve noticed over the years as a relationship writer is that most women have no idea how they’re coming across to men.

Let’s talk about how you might unintentionally be pushing guys away and turning them off.

We’ve all been there. You’re seeing a guy… a guy you really like.

Getting over a situationship can be brutal… and the pain is often worse than the pain following a long-term relationship. But why? Why does it so hard to let go of something you never truly had?

Let’s talk about some habits and mindsets that are sabotaging you from getting the love you want. The path to finding love is filled with misconceptions thanks to movies and mainstream media.

In this day and age where “ghosting” has become an acceptable form of breaking up (maybe not acceptable, let’s go with widely practiced instead), with endless dating apps where a guy can find someone shiny and new with a few…

Lack of self-love is probably the biggest hindrance to finding and having romantic love. When you don’t love yourself, how will you ever trust that anyone could actually love you?

Let’s talk about why men pull away and then come back. It could be a guy you’re casually seeing, or maybe it’s your long-term partner.

A breakup is quite possibly the most gutting, painful, agonizing experience one can go through.

Few things can send waves of panic coursing through a woman’s body quite like a man suddenly pulling away. Things started out so great.