Relationships

The Most Realistic Description Of Love, In Just Six Paragraphs

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Forget the butterflies and the intensity for a moment. Those feelings fade, no matter who you choose. What matters more is the life you’re building and who you’re building it with.

So take a moment and picture your future.

Your life partner isn’t just someone to flirt with over dinner. This is the person you’ll be doing life with. And life is long. It’s messy. It’s unpredictable.

It makes sense we would mistake intensity for true love because that’s what it looks like in movies and on TV. It’s fraught and dramatic.

There might be financial stress, career shifts, sleepless nights with babies, and the grief of caring for aging parents. This is the person who will watch your hair gray and your body weaken and change.

The person who will sit beside you on ordinary days and unimaginable ones. This is the person who will be by your side through that, through seasons of joy and seasons of loss. 

So ask yourself—who do you want by your side through all of that?

Choose someone who calms your storm over someone who stirs your chaos.

Not just someone who gives you butterflies, but someone who gives you peace.

Sabrina Alexis Bendory is the author of the book Detached: How to Let Go, Heal, and Become Irresistible.