Blake Lively is having both an amazing month and a horrendous one. The good: her new movie “It Ends With Us” is crushing it at the box office. The bad? People are really angry about the way she’s been handling the marketing for this film. There also seems to be some drama between her and her costar/director of the film Justin Baldoni. The drama and her off-putting behavior is making headlines for all the wrong reasons and overshadowing the important message of the film, which is about domestic violence.
I’m not here to rip on Blake. I could never fathom the pressure that comes with being a celebrity and having so many people scrutinizing your behavior. But I do think we can learn a lot from this whole ordeal and use it to better ourselves and our lives and learn how to be more likable and successful.
Here they are:
1. Don’t Make Everything About You
If you’re constantly making every conversation or interaction about yourself, people are going to notice—and they’re not going to like it. Blake has faced backlash because she’s been turning every interview question into an opportunity to showcase her own greatness. This self-centered approach is one of the most off-putting traits a person can have. Remember, people appreciate humility and genuine interest in others far more than a constant need for self-promotion.
2. Read the Freakin’ Room
When someone brings up something heavy or significant, meet them on their level. Dismissing or downplaying serious issues doesn’t just make you seem out of touch; it can also come across as insensitive or even disrespectful. Blake’s inability to respond appropriately to serious topics and turning everything into a joke or an opportunity for self-promotion has been a major factor in her current backlash. It’s a reminder that being present and empathetic in your interactions is key to maintaining respect and connection.
3. Nothing Lasts Forever
Blake Lively has been beloved by the public for years, enjoying a rare spot in the limelight with minimal controversy. But this recent backlash reminds us that nothing lasts forever—not even a spotless reputation. In life, we cycle between ups and downs, and it’s crucial to recognize that neither the good times nor the bad times are permanent.
When you’re riding high, it’s easy to feel like you’re untouchable, but success can be fleeting. That’s why it’s important to stay humble and grounded, no matter how good things seem. On the flip side, when you’re going through tough times, it’s just as important to remember that this, too, shall pass. Life is full of ebbs and flows, and resilience comes from understanding that every high and low is temporary.
Whether you’re in a peak or a valley, the key is to navigate each with grace, knowing that change is always around the corner.
4. Perfection is an Illusion.
Blake’s image as a perfect, untouchable celebrity may have contributed to the intensity of the backlash. When someone is perceived as flawless for too long, the public often waits for them to slip up. This situation highlights the importance of embracing authenticity over perfection. Show your human side—flaws and all—because trying to maintain a perfect image can set you up for harsher judgment when things don’t go as planned.
I think people also just expected too much from her. Up until now we never really heard her talk so much and that created a lot of blank space for people to fill in. Her image was so perfect up until this point which is why so many were shocked to see her very real human side, with flaws galore!
5. Be Nice.
To really know someone’s character, you have to look at how they treat everyone, not just those closest to them or who they can benefit from. There have been a lot of clips circulating of Blake being rude to reporters and acting like a mean girl and it’s off-putting and says a lot about her character. There is never an excuse to be rude to someone or treat them like they are beneath you. If you feel the need to act that way, it’s important to look at what you’re trying to compensate for and what pain you are avoiding facing…as the saying goes, hurt people, hurt people.
