Some people regard budaejjigae as the original Korean-American fusion dish. Others just consider it a bad memory.
It was always you who felt apologetic somehow: for wearing that shirt, for playing that game, for liking this thing, for just being you. But none of that is important.
As expanding ideas of gender slowly seep into mainstream public consciousness, there are more and more prominent figures who are finding it safe to come out as nonbinary or gender nonconforming.
The other day at a party, a white girl drunkenly called me “Nora” for several minutes before she realized that Nora, the only other Asian person present, was actually on the other side of the room.
The alternative to this is just as simple: listen to us.