Read This When You’re Done Shrinking Yourself For Others

Rebecca Simon — author of Let Go, Trust God — shares insights on how to stop shrinking ourselves and instead allow God’s light to roar from within us.

There comes a quiet moment — sometimes born out of exhaustion, sometimes out of clarity — when you realize you’ve been asking for less than what God placed within you. Not because you’re ungrateful, but because you’ve gotten used to staying small and quiet.

You’ve learned to manage expectations. You’ve learned to downplay your intuition. You’ve learned to soften your presence, all to avoid being misunderstood or taking up too much space in a world that once made you feel like you were “too much.”

But God never asked you to disappear.

He didn’t put hope in your heart just for you to bury it. Every part of you — your wisdom, your tenderness, your quiet strength — was made with intention. God never asked you to be less. He asked you to be faithful.

When you spend your life shrinking, you forget your anointing. You forget the authority you’ve been given. You forget who sent you.

There is nothing holy about hiding.

Your softness was never meant to become silence. You can be gentle and bold. Grace-filled and unwavering. Tender and still fully alive in the calling God has placed on your life. You don’t have to edit yourself down to make others comfortable — especially when those people were never meant to define your worth.

This isn’t about chasing attention. It’s about refusing to deny the light God placed within you. It’s about showing up with quiet conviction, not performance. It’s about honoring the fullness of who you are without apology or fear.

You don’t have to earn the right to be seen. You already are. You don’t have to prove you are called. You already were.

Prayer

God, I don’t want to live a smaller life than the one You created me for. I’ve learned how to hide — not out of humility, but out of fear. I want to unlearn that now.

Help me to live in the fullness of who You called me to be — not for recognition, but for Your glory. Teach me to move with integrity, with gentleness, and with the courage that comes from being anchored in You.

Let my life reflect what I no longer need to prove.

Amen.