10 Signs Your Life Is A Mess But You’re Actually Mastering It

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1. You are struggling to have a decent job.

Right now you are broke, jobless, or stuck in the job that you hate. You want to be financially independent yet it’s extremely hard for you to get that dream job. You are struggling to choose between following your passion or just getting a job that will pay your bills. But, despite all the struggles and despairs you still work hard because you totally understand that being a success story requires hard work. So you promise yourself you won’t give up and believe that someday you’ll get the job which you’ve always wanted.

2. You don’t know what you really want in your life.

You feel lost, confused, and feel like you don’t have any purpose in life. The truth is when you feel lost along the way, it means that you are questioning your own existence. You’re realizing that your life needs to be more than just existing and you need to re-navigate your life into something meaningful. Not many people have realized that they are lost, so when you feel lost; congratulations! Because it means you are looking for meanings behind your own existence.

3. You feel like you don’t make any difference in this world.

The feeling of being worthless, useless, and powerless within the world where you live in are actually signs that you care about your surroundings. Those are feelings that prove you have empathy and feel the need to make other people’s lives better. When you feel like you can’t change the world, be proud of yourself because it means that you want to do something good for others while also being realistic at the same time.

4. Your circle of friends are getting smaller each day.

You know your life is a mess if you’ve lost many friends and your loved ones. You grew apart and you started to be familiar with the feeling of separation. Letting people go is not a new lesson for you and now your circle of friends are getting smaller as it’s not easy for you to trust people anymore. As time goes by, you realize that friendship is more about quality over quantity and you focus on maintain relationships only with the people who accept you for who you are. This time, you have no time with toxic people.

5. You have failed in many things and countless times.

Failure only means that you’ve given your best effort to get something in your life. Failure isn’t going define your success or who you really are, but it defines that you are a hard worker. A failure is a proof that you’ve tried to confront a difficult challenge so you could live your life better. When you’re desperate because of those failures, cheer up. Those failures will make your life a mess, but they will also make you feel more alive than those people who never even tried anything at all.

6. You find yourself wanting to escape from your life.

When you can’t stand your life at this exact moment, you could say that your life is a mess because a good life will never make you want to escape. But it is also a good sign because it means that you refuse to settle for a life that doesn’t satisfy your well-being. Your willingness to escape is actually your inner self telling you that you’re living a life which doesn’t make you happy. Don’t ever settle when you hate your life; move on and make changes.

7. You don’t see love as your main reason to be happy.

Right now, you are at the point in your life where you believe that love requires effort and it is not always your main source of happiness. You know exactly that being happy is not when you have a significant other as you understand that happiness comes from within. You start to prioritize self-love and become realistic when it comes to love. Your love life might be a mess, but actually, you’re starting to understand the true meaning of love.

8. Your friend’s lives look better than yours.

But you know exactly that nobody’s life is as perfect as their Instagram stories. You also understand that comparison will get you nowhere and the only thing you need to do is to work harder than before. You understand that everybody is struggling with their own difficulties and no one’s life is better or worse than the other. So those comparisons you make with other people will only make you stand up once again and try harder to be better than yesterday.

9. You feel like you can’t control your life.

When your life is a mess you will feel like you don’t have any control over what’s going to happen next in your life. You just want to go with the flow because you realize the only thing you can control is your response. But making the decision to go with the flow of life is actually an accomplishment since not many people can do that. When you realize that you can’t control your life, it means that you stop obsessing about things and start to enjoy life as it is. And that’s the true definition of living your life to the fullest.

10. You always find yourself re-evaluating your life.

You know your life is a mess when you keep reminding yourself that you need to start over and get your shit together. And it’s a good realization because it means that you know that you deserve a much better life than you have. Having a messy life is a sign that you are learning the art of being alive. You are progressing and being messy is only a sign that you need to keep on going.

In the end, the messier your life is, the more lessons you learn and unconsciously, you are becoming an expert of life. TC mark

Rayi Noormega

I learn humans and I write about them.

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We owe it to ourselves to live the greatest life that we’re capable of living, even if that means that we have to be alone for a very long time.

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