You Dont Have To Be In A Relationship To Feel Whole Again

Joel Sossa
Joel Sossa

Can I tell you a secret?

You don’t have to be in a relationship.

I mean it. I know they force it down your throat until you choke on it. Girls aren’t pretty unless they’re wanted. Boys aren’t men unless they’re having sex with someone. People aren’t lovable until they’re dating each other.

Can I tell you another secret?

A relationship won’t always make you happy.

As wonderful as romance is — it isn’t the only love that exists. It is not the answer to everything. I constantly hear the words “nobody loves me” escape from the mouths of people who are single. It always hurts me because if you ask them: “Where are your parents, your teachers, your classmates, your pets; they love you, do they not?”— they say, yes, okay, but it doesn’t count. Why doesn’t it count? Of course it counts. Love doesn’t diminish just because someone doesn’t want to have sex with you. In fact, it makes that love more real. It makes it into something that surges beyond physical attraction and surface level companionship. It makes it unique.

Listen, I get it. It is pretty to be in love. It’s magical, I’m sure. However, it’s also wonderful to stop for ice cream in your prom dress with six other girls. It’s also wonderful to go visit the world with nothing but a bunch of buddies who are really excited about learning.

Stop trying to find “the one” as a means of filling the gaps within your heart. Have you ever stopped to think that maybe “the one” is just you — loving yourself, having fun, and being happy beyond measure? Maybe instead of looking for our other halves, we should be piecing ourselves together.

Maybe I wasn’t born unfinished.

Maybe I am the one who makes myself better. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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