Maybe someone fooled you and told you that you can’t find a passionate love without heartbreak. Maybe someone told you that you have to pick someone who’s not your type because you can’t have it all. Maybe someone actually convinced you that love is boring and it’s only exciting in the beginning.

I firmly believe that love is not boring but the wrong relationship is.

When you date someone just because you’re lonely or when you convince yourself that someone is right for you just because they happen to love you a lot more than you love them. The routine, getting used to each other’s bad habits, spending too much time together, fighting or running out of things to talk about are all part of the package. Because it’s really not that much different from your relationship with your best friends, yet you never say you’re bored of your best friends because you love them and even the most boring moments with them are comforting. They’re soothing because you are around people who understand you, people you love and people who genuinely care about you.

Love is only boring when you’re not with the right person because you don’t grow together, you’re not excited to know more, you’re not discovering something new about them every day and you’re not giving them your all.
Because when you give your all to someone, it can never be boring, it’s always empowering, it’s always beautiful and it fulfills you more than anything else in the world.

Love is not boring. Love is exciting, it’s exhilarating, it’s unpredictable and it always leaves you wanting more. You can never get enough of it.

So don’t settle for a boring love because when you’re with the right person, even the most boring moments will be special, they’ll be unforgettable, they’ll mean something. Because love is gigantic even in the little things and it’s loud even in silence.

If you’re bored then maybe you’re not truly opening yourself up to love. Maybe you’re not giving your all. Maybe you’re settling because you don’t want to be alone. But if love doesn’t make you want to wake up every morning and be the best person you could be and if it doesn’t fill you with overwhelming joy and excitement, then it’s not love and you shouldn’t convince yourself that it is.

Rania Naim is a poet and author of the new book All The Words I Should Have Said, available here.