You Know It’s Time To Move On When You’ve Tried To Change Things But They Remain The Same

You know it’s time to move on when you’ve said it all, when you’ve waited long enough for things to change, when you’ve given more than one chance and when you’ve been holding onto hope rather than reality.

You know it’s time to move on when you’re repeatedly faced with the same problems, the same mistakes and the same pain. When you realize that you’re the one allowing yourself to be in this vulnerable position. A position that keeps you stuck in the same vicious cycle because you don’t want to let go. Because your hope is replacing and clouding your wisdom.

You know it’s time to move on when you can’t control someone’s emotions anymore, when you can’t make them see what they choose to be blinded to, when you can’t make them feel half of what you’re feeling and when you can’t help them realize what they might lose.

You know it’s time to move on when they don’t care about losing you.

You know it’s time to move on when you’ve done everything that is humanely possible so you can only have faith in God and the universe. Believe that maybe this where you need to be in your life right now and this is what you need to be going through; whether single or heartbroken or sad or confused or scared or lost. Believe in the funny way life starts making sense when things fall apart and the funny way God takes something good away from you to bring you something exponentially better.

You know it’s time to move on when you don’t have anything more to give, when you’ve offered all your love and your strength to someone, when you’ve really tried wholeheartedly to be everything they need and add value to their life but nothing you do seems to add up to what they truly want and there’s really nothing you can do about that.

Sometimes things remain the same because we need to change ourselves.

We need to practice self-love, we need to learn how to move on, how to let go, how to believe in something better and we need to realize that we will not get everything we wished for and maybe that’s a blessing.

You know it’s time to move on when you’ve tried your hardest to bless something that was meant to curse you.

Maybe you’re being saved from something that could have tremendously harmed you. Maybe you need to learn how to safeguard your heart from dangerous territories.

You know it’s time to move on when it’s no longer safe to hold on and no longer safe to stay.

Rania Naim is a poet and author of the new book All The Words I Should Have Said, available here.