Annie Spratt

You’ve Done Bad Things But You’re Not A Bad Person

You’ve ghosted, promised to call, but then lost your phone and gone MIA for weeks.

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Annie Spratt

You’ve done bad things, that doesn’t make you a bad person.

You’ve texted boys at 2 am, not because you loved them, but because it was 2 am and the world was quiet and sleeping alone is no fun. You’ve flirted, given out fake numbers, gotten free drinks. You’ve lied and said you saw a future when you know you were just lonely and needed someone to take away the pain. You’ve ghosted, promised to call, but then lost your phone and gone MIA for weeks.

You’ve relied on a friend only to be too busy with work, with life, to respond when she’s really needed you. You’ve fought with your parents, been a brat, and said things you couldn’t take back. You’ve had meltdowns at bars and multiple heart to hearts with Uber drivers pondering about your mistakes and where your life is taking you.

You’ve done it all.

Here’s the thing – you’ve done bad things, but you’re not a bad person.

Forgive yourself. Life is sticky and messy and at times, you’re going to fuck up. You’re allowed to be selfish, honestly at times it may be the only way to survive. But, at some point, you’re going to have to forgive yourself for the mistakes you’ve made, the paths you’ve chosen, and the moments you acted irrational and immature.

Forgive yourself and realize your past mistakes don’t mean you deserve a life of bad karma. They by no means determine your worth or define you. You deserve love and happiness just as much as the next person.

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