Every time you see a couple, you can’t help feeling both happy for them and jealous of them. After all, you have been looking for that special someone for as long as you can remember. There is no doubt that you are very happy and capable of living on your own. But if you could choose, you definitely would want to share your wonderful life with that special someone and grow old together.

But after so many heartbreaks, disappointments and even being cheated on, you start losing hope of ever finding ‘The One’. You’re torn between keeping looking for him or just giving up now.

Have you ever thought that someone out there, in this big wide world, has been looking for you too? Because to him, you’re his ‘The One’. He’s trying to find his way to get to you. He’s very frustrated as you are and probably almost gave up so many times. But he knows that you’re out there. He knows that you’re the one that would make the search worthwhile. So, he’s still trying. He still goes on dates and puts himself out there with the hope of finding you.

So, I don’t want you to give up. Life would be so boring and mundane if you don’t have hope. Keep going. So what if you are going to have another disappointment, another heartbreak, or another ugly cry.

Just because it doesn’t last doesn’t mean it wasn’t worth your while.

Just live your life… keep doing what makes you happy, try new hobbies that you haven’t done before, go on a solo vacation to recharge, anything to enrich your life. Go on a date if you want to. If that doesn’t work out, think of it as you’re one date closer to meet him. All you can do is to make sure you and your life are ready for whatever opportunity comes your way. You’re clear about what you’re looking for in the person who is worthy of you. Whatever you do, you can’t just sit around binge-watching Game of Thrones and expecting him to just knock on your door. There is a very slim chance that he’s stopping by to join you. So, go out there and live your life. When you finally let go of the expectation and frustration, trust me, you’ll feel lighter. You’ll feel relieved and be able to focus more on what is important to you at the moment. It’s a very beautiful feeling.

I can’t guarantee that you two will find each other tomorrow, next month, or even next year.

But I do believe that life has a perfect plan for you. It always does.

Stop being frustrated and trying to fix everything on a certain timeline. Life doesn’t always go as planned. Accept that certain things just happen the way they do and you have totally no control over it. Let it go. He’ll finally find you when the time is right… when you both are ready for each other. Because everything always happens at the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason. Love is not something we can force to happen. It might be discouraging to wait for love, but it’s definitely more exhausting to look for it.

If the time is right, even when you’re doing nothing, it’ll find you.

He will find you. He’ll show you how being ‘The One’ feels like, the same way you’ll show him. That’s when you both realize your relationship can’t be more perfect.