Why You’re Holding Onto Your Ex (Even If You Won’t Admit It) Based On Your Zodiac Sign



(March 21st to April 19th)

You’re holding on because every impulse you get to text him, you act on. You’re confident that he’ll answer, that he won’t be able to resist you, that he misses you and wants you back, and he’s just waiting for you to reach out because he won’t do it himself. Your confidence is admirable and attractive, but it can also be your worst enemy. Sometimes the better option is to not reach out. If he truly can’t resist you, if he truly misses you, he’ll let you know. You won’t have to wonder.


(April 20th to May 21st)

In the back of your mind, you are convinced that the two of you are meant to be, and you won’t let go of that idea. It’s subconsciously sabotaging your dating life, and your chances of finally moving on because every time you meet someone new you find a reason you’re not ‘right’ for each other. Your loyalty lies with your ex instead of with the prospect of finding love again.


(May 22nd to June 21st)

You can’t decide if the relationship is actually over, if you should give them another chance, or if you should ask them for another chance. You weren’t terribly heartbroken when the breakup first happened because you saw this change as an opportunity to explore, and your life is right back where it used to be even after they’re gone, but when you’re alone, you think about them and wonder if you each made the right choice.


(June 22nd to July 22nd)

You’re holding onto your ex because you shared a part of your life with them, and that means something to you. They met your family, your friends, and you hoped that maybe one day they could be a permanent part of it. Now that they’re gone, you’re extremely hesitant to meet someone new because you’re scared they’ll hurt you in the same exact way. You’re scared it won’t work out, and that you’ll have to experience this pain all over again.


(July 23rd to August 22nd)

You tell yourself and everyone around you that you’re SO OVER YOUR EX, and you prove it to them by going on as many dates as you possibly can, but why do you feel the need to prove anything to anyone? When you tell his best friend that you’ve gone on 10 tinder dates this past week, it’s a sign that your extremely active single lifestyle might have a hidden agenda. If you’re only dating new people with hopes (or well-planned out schemes) that your ex will hear about it, you’re clearly still not over him.


(August 23rd to September 22nd)

You are not a fan of loose ends. When there’s a breakup you want clear-cut closure, and if there’s not, you’ll do anything to make it that way. Chances are, you’re still holding onto your ex because they won’t give you the type of closure that you so desperately need.


(September 23rd to October 22nd)

You’re holding onto your ex because you haven’t found someone new who fills their shoes and gives you that same type of happiness. You’ve never been good at being alone because you love to share your life with others. You’re the type of person who loves love, and until you find someone you’re confident you can experience that love with, you’ll keep your ex in the back of your mind.


(October 23rd to November 22nd)

You’re a little bitter towards your ex, but not enough to let others know you are. The spite you have towards them comes out in subtle yet impactful ways. You hate to think that they were a waste of time simply because the relationship didn’t work out, but at the same time, that’s pretty much exactly how you feel. Your best bet to letting go is to release the pent up emotions, and stop trying to pretend like everything is cool. Let your anger, sadness, or whatever else you’re feeling out because that might be what’s making you hold on.


(November 23rd to December 21st)

Change is something that comes easy to you, in fact, it fuels you and inspires you. You can’t be tied down to people or places, so holding on to an ex isn’t something you relate to. You carry the memories of people you’ve shared your life with on all of your adventures, and you look back on them and think about what you’ve learned. You don’t see exes as things to let go of, you just see them as a stepping stone in your journey through life.


(December 22nd to January 20th)

You have far too much self-control and will power to reach out to an ex. Even when you’re secretly drowning your sorrows in boxed Chardonnay, you have a lock on your phone that won’t let you text them. It’s easy for you to not contact your ex, but you can’t hide the fact that you still think about them.


(January 21st to February 18th)

You’re allergic to emotions. You don’t cry through breakups and you don’t sulk after them. You keep going, you keep moving, breathing, living, and focusing on yourself and your well-being. Your independence makes you strong, but the amount of time you spend alone sometimes makes you want to at least have the option to lean on someone when you need them, and this is when you begin to think about your ex, and you begin to wonder if your independence is what pushed them away.


(February 19th to March 20th)

You’re holding onto your ex because every time they ask you to forgive them, you do. You are trusting, and you believe in second chances, but sometimes you give them to the exes who least deserve it. You’re a natural born fixer and you can’t help it. You see your ended relationships and exes as things you can repair, but often it’s yourself you need to spend time fixing. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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