“Kindness. Without a kind heart I’d rather date a porcupine.”
“Curiosity about the world. Not just ‘oh that’s interesting’ but rather a drive to be constantly learning about themselves and the world around them.”
“Honesty and openness. If a girl is honest and always says what’s on her mind, that makes me happy.”
“If she isn’t afraid to be a little bit on the weird/goofy side…”
“Persistence in making themselves or those around them better.
Willing to stand up for beliefs.
What those things are can vary, but I want someone who keeps moving forward.”
“There’s nothing hotter than a woman with a passion for something.”
“Touchy. Snuggles all day is literally the most important thing.”
“Financially responsible. It’s astonishing how many people my age can’t balance a check book.”
“Intelligence – this doesn’t have to mean book smart, as in having a degree in STEM. It does mean being mentally active. In this includes wittiness and humor. In a more abstract way, I’m looking for a spark in someone.
Independence – She has her life in order. This generally means financial, but emotional stability is a must. I cannot tolerate a relationship where it’s the 3rd time this week you’ve cried at the drop of a hat over something seemingly innocuous.
Also, while I really enjoy your company, I enjoy being alone a lot, and anyone I date generally should be able to go our and have a good time without me.”
“Sarcasm. I love girls who give me shit. It’s so damn rare though.”
“My initial thought was “GOD DAMMIT I JUST WANT YOU TO BE NICE TO ME” but that’s a little too basic to be helpful. Even if it’s not as common as it should be.
So I’m going to go with a growth mindset instead of a fixed mindset. It makes resolving conflict and fixing problems in the relationship so much easier when her response to an issue isn’t ‘well this is just who I am.'”
“I like an iconoclast, an unconventional woman, not for the sake of rebellion, but one who is not unduly inhibited by cultural norms, one who is creative about how she lives.”
“Being able to pull her weight in a conversation. A lot of the time you can tell if a woman has never had to make any effort in how she interacts with guys, and it’s a colossal turnoff.”
“Self awareness, or the general will to have some involvement in their own happiness and well being.
I tend to admire people who actually do something to improve their lives rather than endlessly bitching about things and expecting other people to manage their happiness.”
“Good listener, curious, willing to challenge her own thoughts and beliefs as well as mine. Generally interested in a given hobby, area, discipline. Oh and up front with how she is feeling.”
“Emotional stability. I don’t care how hot she is, I can’t stand unstable women.”
“Optimism to outweigh my pessimism. I would dare to say that passion for life, but I’m not sure how this goes with my character, probably terribly.”