Love is not simple. In fact, it is perhaps one of the most complex things in the world. It carries a lot of surprises and immerses you in a plethora of feelings – some of which you have never even felt before. They will mostly strike you with awe, but of all these feelings, there are two that go hand in hand – joy and pain. You see, no matter how much you pray for or wish for, or even work for a perfect love, there will never be such a thing as a perfect relationship. There will be good days, as well as bad; fights and kisses – lots of them; crying and laughing; winning and losing. There will be days when you’ll just look at your partner’s face as he/she sleeps and think about how you want to spend the rest of your days and nights with him/her. You’ll look at him/her and fail to comprehend how it all happened, or even started. You’ll look at him/her and feel all sorts of emotions bursting out of your chest like a firework ready for display.
However, there will also be days when you’ll think about letting go; you’ll want to take a few steps back but you’re not entirely sure how or whether your should or not. And when that time comes knocking on your door, here’s what you need to remember.
Happiness and pain are both just emotions – intangible, fleeting, seemingly empty, yet they carry the heaviest weights, and all you really have to do is weigh them in.
And when the latter feels much heavier than the former, that’s when you have to loosen your grip; that’s when you take a few steps back and consider putting yourself first. When everything feels too much to carry, or when you can’t take any of it anymore, for all the right reasons, darling, please let go. When you’re causing each other too much pain that you forget why you even started, that’s when you set each other free – that’s when you know that you are not the perfect fit, and somebody else out there must have the missing piece.
When happiness continues to remain heavier than your pain, that’s when you keep on trying and fighting.
You try your best to fix what had broken, because you simply don’t give up on love without putting on a fight and giving it your best shot.
You don’t just let go of something that took a while to come into your life. You don’t just give up on someone you chose to be happy with without a valid reason. Remind yourself of all of the days when you didn’t want to go to sleep because you’re afraid that when you wake up, you’ll forget about how ecstatic you felt the previous day. Think about all of the nights you didn’t want to let him/her go, and ask yourself whether you can spend the following nights sleeping alone. Think about all of the mountains you climbed and ask yourself if you are ready to hike alone the next time around.
Love takes time.
It is something that we often seek and wait for. There are times when it is taken for granted. There are times when you will question its existence, but when it already made its presence strongly felt around you, make sure that you’ll cherish it and let it grow. Fight for it and don’t ever dare waste it. Too many people find it hard to receive love, so if you’re on both the giving and receiving ends, you are one of the few lucky ones.
But when with your love comes the kind of pain that drains your heart and soul, learn how to stop fighting; learn how to let go.
Think about all of the times you struggled to love yourself, together with the moment you finally were able to, because more frequent than not, we sometimes forget that the love we give ourselves is still more significant than the love we receive from other people. We often fear that letting go will hurt us almost eternally, but what we fail to realize is that holding on can possibly do just the same.