I Don't Want A Lover, I Want A Partner In Crime

I Don’t Want A Lover, I Want A Partner In Crime

As I’ve gotten older, my outlook on relationships has changed. I have grown as a woman, as a person, as a mother and I want something meaningful, something worthwhile and something long-term.

I don’t want love, I want a partner in crime.

I don’t want a relationship, I want a partnership.

Anyone can have a relationship. However, not everyone can be part of something deeper than a relationship. Not everyone can share a true partnership with someone they love.

The truth is, being with someone isn’t enough to create a partnership. Loving someone isn’t enough to create a partnership.

I want a partner in crime, and I don’t mean Bonnie and Clyde type of partners of crime.

A partner in crime is someone that will be my teammate. We will be each other’s biggest fan, cheerleader, shoulder to cry on, therapist and listening ear.

A partner in crime is someone who I can be myself with and don’t have to worry about having to filter what I say or do, someone that gets my fucked-up sense of humor and laughs at my stupid jokes.

A partner in crime will be there at my worst when I’m sick, stressed, depressed, frustrated and heartbroken. I want someone that will ease my pain when it gets too overwhelming.

A partner in crime is someone who will always be there for me, up for a challenge, up for a battle, and most of all, someone that will never give up on me.

A partner in crime is someone that I can take trips with, go on crazy adventures and someone I can always have fun with, someone I don’t care where we go or what we do as long as we are together.

A partner in crime will believe in me and my dreams and will stand behind me no matter how far-fetched my dreams may seem to others.

A partnership is about building a life together where we both overcome obstacles and learn together. We work together towards a common goal. We have mutual respect and complete commitment to each other.

A partnership means compromise. It means supporting each other. It means sacrifice. It means trudging through the muck of life knowing someone has your back no matter what comes our way.

A partnership means to nurture and empower one another.

A partner in crime recognizes that fights and disagreements will occur. When these happen, we’ll do what it takes to move through them. We’ll take responsibility for our actions and won’t blame the other for what it evokes in us. We will work things out together.

I want a partner in crime.

I want a partner in crime to face this cold cruel world with, I want someone that no one ever will get in between us two. I want someone who teaches me more about myself. I want someone who would never hold me back. I want someone that knows when something is wrong by just looking at me and knows how to comfort me with his touch. I want someone I am comfortable being vulnerable with. I want someone who I can have unadulterated fun with. I want someone who not only physically attracts me but also entices me through his strength of character and kindness. I want someone believes in me, motivates me, inspires me and strengthens me.

I want a partner in crime that will be with me on the days where I must face my demons, someone by my side to help me endure the battles. I want someone that never gives up on me because he knows the good outweighs the bad and the ugly doesn’t scare him.

I want a partner in crime that will be my confidant. Someone I can talk to — knowing no matter what I say, I will feel safe telling him about my most personal struggles, thoughts, and desires.

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About the author

Mitzi J Hernandez

A writer writing love, life and her cancer journey.💚