They say love is a risk you should always be willing to take. But even if it is, we should be cautious in choosing who to take risk for, because love is a beautiful thing and we deserve only the best. Maybe you’ve been dating a guy for weeks, but is he actually the best match for you? Below I listed some simple but important signs he’s actually a good match for you. Check it out yourself and see if you’ve finally found the right guy!
1. You’re completely comfortable with him
You can be the real you when you’re with him. You’re not ashamed of showing your just-woke-up face and he’s also comfortable with it. He tells you you’re beautiful even when you feel ugly. He still finds you sexy even if you’re in pajamas. And most importantly, you’re not pretending to be someone else when you’re with him.
2. He supports your dreams
He doesn’t stop you from reaching your dreams, even if it comes with a sacrifice. May it be being physically apart from him or having little to no dates on Friday nights because you have to study for graduate school, he makes a way to make you feel like he’s still there. He motivates you to reach that dream. And he supports you in any way he can.
3. He always talks about you
You may not really know if he’s talking about you, but if your mutual friends told you he is whenever you’re not around, then you’re one lucky girl. Because he’s a good match for you. Not all guys have the guts to tell their friends about a girl, unless he’s completely into her.
4. He loves spending even just three minutes with you
Does he surprise you with a cup of coffee in the morning before heading to work? Or a flower at unexpected times of the day? Or just a short text message reminding you to eat your lunch? If yes, then he’s definitely a good match for you. Because for him, spending a couple of minutes with you is worth more than a whole day of being without you.
5. He treats you like his best friend
He tells you everything! He can also laugh in front of you, dance, sing out of tune, or even cry in front of you. He shares the good news and even the bad news. He cheers you up when you’re sad, and celebrates with you when you’re happy. If you treat each other like a team, then do not ever let go of that person. Because losing him is not just losing a lover, but also a best friend.
6. He loves your family and your family loves him
He genuinely wants to get to know your family. He respects your parents and tries to blend in whenever he’s at your house. He knows how to value family so he won’t ask you out during your family days, and he doesn’t make you choose between him and them. Your family also likes him. If they tell you he’s a good match for you, then maybe he really is because parents know best.
7. He’s honest and doesn’t pretend he likes your interests too
Sometimes guys can be disingenuous and claim they like what you said, or what you do, just to get in your pants. They can act so enthusiastic about your hobbies and pursuits, but over time, you realize they’re not actually interested in it. But the right guy, he will always be honest. He won’t pretend to be interested and he will tell you. But he will do his best to try to do the things you love. Not because you’re forcing him, but because he wants to be connected with you.
8. He’s endlessly curious about you
You may have told him everything about you, but he still asks a lot. He’s interested about the tiniest details about you. From your favorite grade school teacher, to your most embarrassing memory, to anything under the sun!
9. He’s not jealous of your exes
He’s not just a good match for you, he’s a totally mature guy. He’s comfortable talking about your exes but it doesn’t bother him anymore because he trusts you.
10. He takes note of the things you like
He exerts effort of knowing what you like whether it be chocolates, or flowers, or makeup, and tries his best to surprise you with it.
11. He accepts you regardless of your past mistakes
He doesn’t bring up the past and never judges you for your previous mistakes. He accepts you just the way you are. He doesn’t try to change you. Although change is important if you’re changing for the better, he’s not forcing you to change some habits just because it’s not okay with him. And if he reacts calmly whenever you’ve done something wrong, then he’s a really good match for you.
12. He can make you laugh, but is also serious
There is a balance between humor and seriousness. He can make you feel silly and happy, and can also make you feel secure. There are no boring dates when you’re with him, and there are no sad times that he’s not there to comfort you.
13. He’s positive about everything
It’s very toxic to be with someone who always sees the negative in almost everything. If he’s someone who rolls his eyes about how everything sucks even if there’s no point, then you’re better off without him. But if he’s someone who brings out something good in any situation, he’s definitely good for you.
14. You’re sexually compatible
You have this unexplainable chemistry. From how you kiss to how you are in bed. It’s a different thing to just have sex than to actually enjoy it.
15. He’s not jealous of your guy friends
Let’s be realistic, all girls have guy friends, and all guys have girl friends. But if he’s jealous of almost anyone, then he’s a no match for you.
16. He won’t let you go to sleep mad
Even if you’re just dating, misunderstandings can happen. But to him, no issues should remain unresolved within the day. He tries his best to make it up to you. He doesn’t want you to sleep feeling disappointed over him, and he doesn’t want to end his day without making amends.
17. He talks to you constantly and about anything
You’ve probably talked about everything but he doesn’t get tired. He loves to listen to your stories and share his stories as well. He enjoys talking to you and not a day will pass that he doesn’t want to hear your voice.
18. He has a vision of your future together
If he’s the right guy, he won’t be playing games with you. He can share his vision with you very clearly. He’s very open about it and he’s honest with it. He will tell you whether he’s imagined marrying you and having kids with you, or if he just sees you as a short-term girlfriend. He will never leave you guessing.
When you find a person who matches most or everything listed above, then take time to assess if he’s a good match for you. Because the right match for you is someone who loves and nourishes you inside and out.