Date Someone Who Makes You Want To Be A Better Person

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Find someone who makes you want to be a better person. Someone who can’t help seeing the best in you, thereby forcing you to consider that you are in fact as beautiful, kind, talented, and smart as they honestly believe you to be. That you are the you they’ve fallen for, and are therefore capable of so much more than you ever thought possible.

When someone truly believes in you, you can see it in their eyes. You can smell it on their skin. You can feel it in their aura as they stand next to you, or lie by your side.

This person will look at you and smile, exuding positivity and loving warmth, even when you look back at them feeling down or bitter or resentful towards the world. Because even then, they will only see the best in you—the beauty lingering behind the disgruntled attitude, the motivation lurking behind the mopiness, the inspiration behind the temporary laziness. When your own mind decides that you’re in a bad place, destined to struggle or immersed in self-doubt, this person’s expression will tell you otherwise.

Their confidence in you will be contagious. You will absorb it just by being in their presence, tucking handfuls of it deep inside your soul that you can carry wherever you go.

When you sense that someone truly believes in you, it’s virtually impossible not to feel inspired. Not to reach higher. No to do better. Because how could you not rise to the occasion? How could you not want to make this person’s vision of you a reality through and through? How could you not want work harder, study more, or try again? How could you not want to rip yourself from the fog of self-loathing to live in the comforting light of self-love?

Seeing the best in someone else is a key component to lasting love. It is the magic pixie dust that makes long-term commitment possible, the bubblewrap every couple needs surrounding their partnership.

Because we are all destined to experience bad or bleh days, and on those occasions when we’re feeling low, we need someone else to reassure us that we’re wrong—that we are everything they think we are, not the disappointing version of ourselves we can’t seem to untangle.

So go find the person who makes you question all those critical thoughts you have about yourself—not because you’re perfect, but because you’re perfectly imperfect in their view.

This person will look at you and see a human being with more potential than you ever dreamed of for yourself. They will force you to realize that the possibilities are endless—if you’re willing to latch onto the portrait they’ve painted of you in their heart. That you are capable of so many amazing things—if you would just embrace the rendering of you imprinted on their soul.

This person will always see past your faults, piercing right through to the vast abyss of your loveliest traits. They will always be there to help you filter your less appealing qualities, purifying your core so you can live your best life.

When you find this person, don’t let go. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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