Nonverbal invalidation comes in many forms. The worst are obnoxious eye rolls, finger-drumming, or yawning.
I believe it’s a foregone conclusion that as familiarity and comfort with something grows, the likelihood that you’ll take it for granted through thoughtlessness increases.
I was the problem in my marriage and STILL played the victim card inside of my head and chest.
You can stop hurting her by NOT treating her as if she’s insane for feeling hurt by something just because that same thing might not hurt you.
I didn’t know when I was married that emotional pain could hurt worse than physical pain.
There are various things men often do (or don’t do) that cause women to feel shitty in their relationships.
Maybe it’s all super-legit. Maybe it’s all total nonsense. Either way—love is not about finding the perfect partner so much as BEING the perfect partner.
In marriage, either your spouse is #1, or you’re doing it wrong.
I think the #1 cause of divorce is relationship-damaging behavior by men who honestly don’t recognize it. Good men with good intentions who damage their wives’ emotional and mental health with behaviors they don’t understand to be as damaging as they are.
So the boys grow up repeating the sins of their fathers.
Not because they’re bad. Just because they didn’t know better.