Read This If You Can’t Be With The Person You Love

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You know in your heart that there is a person out there for you. Maybe it’s one person, maybe it’s several people throughout your life. But right now, you know that one person is definitely out there, and yet, they feel so far away at the same time. You know they’re real, you know it’s real. But there’s something keeping you from being together.

And there’s nothing you can do about it.

It doesn’t matter how they’re unreachable. It could be something as simple and fixable as distance. Or maybe they’re with someone else. They could be gone altogether, passed from this earth. All you know is that you care for them, you want to be with them, but you can’t. The laws of physics and the universe are truly working against you.

It’s a helpless feeling, isn’t it?

You can’t do anything to change it. You can’t do anything to push towards progress. You just have to wait it out or get over it. Maybe the other person is pushing you towards the latter to save you both the heartbreak, but it doesn’t mean it makes it any easier. It doesn’t mean that your heart isn’t shattering into pieces at the idea that you know that you both care deeply for each other, yet there is nothing that you can do to bring you together. There is nothing.

You love them, you do. Yet, you feel nothing because you’re feeling everything all at once. You’re in mourning. Because there is nothing, nothing that you can do. There’s nothing you can do that wouldn’t seem rash or dumb. There’s nothing you can do, but sit and wait. You just wait and let it ride out.

But how about instead of feeling helpless, you work on finding the bright spots, the blind spots, and all that’s in between? You can work on yourself and work towards a goal. Sometimes I like to think of these situations like Michael Scott and Holly Flax from “The Office.” They had no doubt in their mind that they wanted to be together, but once they realized that they couldn’t, they didn’t let that stop them from moving forward in life and working towards their goals. Of course, they still loved each other. And of course, they still got together in the end. It’s a hopeful little thought we have when we’re missing that person, even just a little bit – that it’ll all work out the way it’s supposed to in the end. It’s something that fights our logic. It’s like your heart tugs at your brain, reminding you to still believe. Your heart doesn’t care how dumb it seems, it knows you’re supposed to be together. You know that they’re everything that you’ve been looking for, yet you can’t dive in and take it. You want to, but where’s the logic in that? So you sit and wait and think that maybe love isn’t supposed to be logical.

Maybe there’s no logic to it at all. Maybe you have to take the logic out of love to simplify it for yourself. Maybe you just need to let things happen, let them unfold in order to live your true happiness. And no, you can’t always live on the hope that one day it’ll work out, that it has to work out. But you can keep a little bit of that, can’t you? If you tell yourself “never,” it might come true. So take the time to love yourself and be open to inviting love into your life. You never know, you might find love where you least expect to, or it might’ve been there (at a distance) all along. TC mark

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