How To Get A Guy To Kiss You


You’re on a wonderful third date.

It’s going even better than the first two. The more you get to know him, the more he seems like the genuine, passionate guy you’ve been looking for. He’s attractive but respectful. He loves his work and maybe even has a cute dog. He really seems to get you, and the two of you have made a connection on a level you never expected over just a few dates.

There’s only one problem.

He still hasn’t kissed you.

So far, each date has ended with a cordial, but undeniably awkward, hug (or other friendly gesture) far removed from what you really wanted – a kiss.

Now, you’re starting to wonder. Does he just see you as a friend? Does he not feel the same way as you? Are other women still in the picture?

If you’re being honest, it’s starting to impact your feelings for him. Why doesn’t he just make a move?

The reality is, he’s probably just shy. None-the-less, if you don’t want your connection to fizzle into nothing, it’s time to move things forward.

Here’s 5 ways to get a guy off his butt and ready to kiss you.

Physical Closeness

First, he can’t kiss you from across the room or even across the table. For him to kiss you, things have to be intimate. If they’re not, make them.

There’s many ways you can do this.

You can lie or sit close to him when you’re watching television.

You can jump on him or tickle him playfully when the two of you are having a cute moment.
You can touch his upper leg when you’re sitting or standing together.

Whether it’s playful, intimate, or just convenient in the moment, you need to get close to him to give him a real chance of kissing you.

Eye contact (with lower lip bite)

Once close to a man, you can make things happen. There’s going to be a moment when the two of you make eyes.

The temptation, in this moment, will be to look away. Especially from a close distance, eye contact generates fast tension that can be very intimidating.

But if the guy hasn’t kissed you yet… push through it. Hold the eye contact.

Then, stop talking.

If he’s genuinely nervous about kissing you, he’ll be slightly taken aback. That’s ok. Keep holding it. If it’s broken, let him to be the one to break it.

If he holds it with you, you’ll feel the tension rise. This is where you add a bite of your bottom lip in to seal the deal (as a side note, make sure it’s a BOTTOM lip bite – top lip bites are not sexy!)

He won’t be able to hold eye contact with you as you bite your (bottom) lip and stare back. There’s too much tension. He’ll either break the eye contact, or kiss you. If he breaks it, you can repeat it later, until he gets the hint.

Eye contact (with triangle gaze)

Similar to the lip bite, the triangle gaze requires you be close to him in a playful or intimate way while you establish eye contact.

Rather than biting your lip, move your gaze between each of his eyes and his lips, i.e. in the shape of a triangle. Some women find the triangle gaze less intimidating than the lip bite because the eye contact involved is slightly less intense.

Ask him to kiss you

Sometimes, no matter how much you stamp on your forehead you want to be kissed, a guy just doesn’t get the message.

It might sound odd, but asking him to kiss you (when done in the right way) is powerful and VERY successful.

Don’t come out during dinner and say “Ok, so are you going to kiss me later in the date or what?”. No guy is going to know what to do with that.

You have to ask in a sensual way.

The two of you are having a cute moment. You’re laughing, making fun of one another, or you just outwitted him in an argument.

That’s when you cheekily (and sensually) lean in and whisper “So… when are you going to kiss me?”

Here’s two other examples:

Situation: He drops you off at your door. Gives you a hug then releases. You realise he’s about to leave.

You: Cheeky smile – raised eyebrows “Are you really going to leave without kissing me?”

Situation: He’s dropping you off in his car. You’re chatting and agree you had a great time. You hug goodbye and get out.

You: As you get out – with a cheeky smile “If we have this much fun next date. You’re definitely going to have to kiss me. Bye!” Smile and shut the door.

Do it yourself

There’s absolutely no reason, if all else fails, you cannot just kiss him yourself.

Men fear rejection just as much as you. Sometimes, the quickest way to get what you want is just to do it yourself.

I rarely recommend a woman makes all the moves – or even the majority – in dating. But there is nothing stopping you from making one or two (hell, you’ll feel empowered by doing so).

This could include initiating the first kiss.

Yes, you’ll probably surprise him.

Believe me, it’s not a surprise any man will dislike.

By having the courage to kiss him first, you move things forward, show him how you feel and make life happen on your terms. In the very rare circumstance he doesn’t kiss back, you have valuable information of his interest levels and need not waste anymore mental energy wondering. Kissing him takes out all the guesswork.

Getting a guy to kiss you isn’t difficult, but some men are shy and require a little extra help. Get the physical proximity and engage him with eye contact. If that doesn’t work, sensually hint at it, or just flat out kiss him yourself. He’s not going to lose attraction for you, and if he does, he wasn’t worth your time anyway. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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