The Ones We Lose Will Always Live Within Us

Christian Acosta

I’ve never like the word ‘lose’ because to lose someone is to imply loss, to say that they are no longer a part of you, that they’ve disappeared, or that you can no longer find them—physically, or spiritually inside your heart.

But when you lose someone, when they pass on from this life to the next, when you are reminded, once again, that our time on this earth is impermanent, it is not a loss.

Because these people, these pets, these memories, these parts of our lives that we’ve loved still live within us, still have a special place in our hearts, no matter the time or distance or pain in watching their souls leave their temporary bodies.

The ones we lose are never really gone.

Their beings shape the way we continue to live, continue to love, continue to heal in the wake of their passing. Their impact guides our decisions, our choices, our emotions. Their memories give us happiness in our darkness, strength in our tiredness.

The way they lived teaches us how to act, even when they are no longer by our side, telling us what to do. We hear them in our heads before we do something reckless. We feel their presence as we take pride in our biggest accomplishments. We are reminded of their love as we hold hands with another, as we kiss, as we fall into human emotion and passion.

They will forever live in us—in how we think, act, live, laugh. They teach us, they give us strength, they keep us grounded when we lose ourselves in this mess.

The ones we love and lose don’t leave us. They don’t fade. They don’t just disappear into the fabric of our pasts; they are intricately woven in, permanently and beautifully.

And so, if you are missing someone right now, if you are feeling empty by the person or pet-sized hole in your heart, if you are reeling a life change, from trying to navigate a world without this special one in it—know that they are not permanently gone.

Know that they live within you, in your heart, your mind, your memory.

And know that they won’t leave. They won’t cease to have meaning. And they haven’t abandoned you. They are with you when you turn the knob of the radio and your favorite song comes on. They are with you when your new puppy does a little bark and twirl just like your old dog used to do. They are with you when you feel the sun kiss your skin. They are with you when a warmth creeps into your belly for no reason at all, just making you feel happy and alive. They are with you when you can barely lift your tired head, or open your broken heart again.

They are with you, even when they can’t be physically.

Because their strength and care lives within the tunnels, the veins, the arteries, the muscles of your heart and body. And their love forever lives in your heart. TC mark

Marisa Donnelly

Marisa is a writer, poet, & editor. She is the author of Somewhere On A Highway, a poetry collection on self-discovery, growth, love, loss and the challenges of becoming.

This Book Is For You 👇

“Never lose sight of the fact that love, and only love, has the capacity to save even the most desperate parts of you.” — Bianca Sparacino

“Live a life that is driven; not by fear, but by love.” — Bianca Sparacino

“Take your life back and grow it into something that inspires you to rise with conviction and passion. Take your life back and grow it into something that you are proud of.” — Bianca Sparacino

Click Here

More From Thought Catalog

Calming CBD Dog Treats

Looking to calm your dog down without embarrassing yourself or having to get prescription medication? 100% THC free, lip-smacking peanut butter flavor, legal in all US states.

“My dog is my best friend and knowing that she had separation anxiety was killing me. Knowing that her CBD oil keeps her at ease while I’m at work or out is a relief. For both of us.”
— Kendra Syrdal

Thought Catalog readers get 20% off using coupon code: ANXIETY20

Buy CBD dog treats
The Ones We Lose Will Always Live Within Us is cataloged in , ,