11 Men Explain What They’re Actually Looking For In A Woman



“Honestly when I look to date someone I think about whether or not they could be a future wife. That might sound crazy or whatever, but it’s true. I want someone I can bring home to mom, someone that gets along with my family, and someone I can see myself with for the rest of my life.”

— Tony, 23


“As f*cked up as this might sound, I want someone who’s going to be like a sister to me. Someone I can really talk to and confide in. Someone that I can wrestle around with, be stupid with and someone who’s going to have my back through thick and thin.”

— Jackson, 29


“I want a girl who cares for me as much as I do for her. Doesn’t hold grudges if we get in fights and works them out right away instead of being stubborn for weeks to come. Someone who will do random things to make me smile when I’ve have had a long day or a bad day.

I want someone who’s honest, doesn’t tell lies, doesn’t hide anything, and of course, doesn’t cheat on me. I know we’ll both get jealous…but I want someone who shows me off in public and on the web, shows how much she truly cares and wants everyone to know she loves me. I want someone who says ‘good morning’ and ‘goodnight’ and ‘I love you’ because who knows when the last time you’ll see that other person will be.”

— Max, 24


“Whatever, I’ll be ‘that guy’ but I want a girl that has a good personality, yeah, but also a good body. I have to be attracted to her. Just saying.”

— Matt, 24


“I don’t know how to put into words what I want, probably because I’m still not 100% sure. But I need someone who is strong-willed. I need someone who is not afraid to stand up to me. I’m hard-headed, so I need to be with someone who I can be sure will never let me mistreat them. A girl who can stand up to me without hesitation/fear and call me out on my crap, to me is sexy as hell.”

— D.J., 22


“Ideally, my significant other would be someone who makes our time together enjoyable – whatever that may entail. Whether it’s watching a football game in jerseys on Sunday, or dressing up for a night on the town (even if it’s for no reason whatsoever), she’s comfortable in any setting. She’ll be athletic, in some capacity, or at the very least be someone who enjoys watching sports and just doesn’t have the physical coordination or desire to play them herself.

I want someone I can sing like an idiot with on road trips and someone I can slow dance in the kitchen or living room with. All of this stuff is great, but the foundation has to be there. She has to be honest with me and I have to be able to be honest with her; she has to be able to trust me with her darkest secrets and deepest fears, as I do her; she should be a seemingly effortless addition to my social circle and family. I’m a really simple guy, and the ‘little things’ are huge with me.

The biggest deal-breaker is that she has to want kids and marriage at some point.”

— Alex, 27


“I want the whole package: brains, boobs, butt.”

— Chris, 19


“Forget anything else, all I really want is someone who makes me laugh. Because that’s all you really need to last through the bullsh*t of getting old.”

— Robbie, 36


“It’s hard to know what I want in a future girlfriend because it’s still really difficult to consider being in a serious relationship again. But one thing I really want is someone who is willing to put into me what I put into her. I want someone who can carry out a smart conversation, and I want someone ambitious who invests in themselves.”

— Brad, 21


“Right now I’m not looking for anything serious. I just want someone I can have a good time with until I decide what I’m really doing.”

— R.J., 24


“I already found my wife and she’s it. We don’t get along all the time, hell, after three kids sometimes we don’t get along at all. But she’s the one I said ‘I do’ to and even on our worst days that will never change.”

— Bill, 41 Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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