Sweet Girl, These Are The 13 Questions To Ask Yourself Before Saying Yes


1. Does he make your heart skip?

When you reach your phone and there’s a text from him, when you see his car pull into the driveway, does your heart feel like a little bouncy ball in your chest?

2. Can you count on him? I mean, really count on him?

When it’s three in the morning and you’re terrified from a bad dream, can you wake him up to tell him about it? When your car runs out of gas for the second time on the side of 59th Street, will he be the first person you call? Will he be there? No matter what?

3. Does he treat you like you’re both fragile and strong?

Will he bandage your papercuts with a father-like tenderness? Will he boast in your accomplishments? Will he let you be alone and carry your own weight, but still kiss your forehead like you’re something precious?

4. Does he love the people you love?

Not every single one, not in the same way, but does he see the good in your mother, accept the toughness of your father, appreciate your great uncle’s semi-inappropriate jokes? Will he do his best to blend into your family, to claim them as his own?

5. Does he listen with his eyes?

And look at you when you speak, even if it’s mumbling about your feelings, or complaining about your boss, or gossiping about the lady down the street? Does he give you eye contact and really invest in the words you share?

6. Is he who you can imagine yourself with, every step and phase and future moment?

Can you see yourself with children or traveling the world hand-in-hand? Can you see yourself sharing milkshakes at the diner by the lake, or singing in the shower? Can you imagine your miscarriage, or the lay-off from his job, or the car accident—and is he by your side, your other half, your partner?

7. Can he be humble when he’s wrong?

When you’ve locked yourself in the room across the hall, will he tip-toe over, knock softly, and whisper his apologies through the hole of the handle?

8. Will he treat the world with tenderness?

Not only you, but your future children, the baby duckling that lost its mother, the boy who broke your window with his baseball? Will he be kind-hearted and forgiving, loving and patient?

9. Will he be your one-woman man?

And never let you doubt his loyalty?

10. Does he make you a better you?

When you’re with him, do you feel even more powerful, beautiful, and proud? Does he challenge you, push you, strengthen you?

11. Can you love his imperfections?

He’s human. Do you see his flaws, and love him in spite of them?

10. Is he him?

The one? The one? Who is better than you even dreamed of, wished for? Is this it? Are you so incredibly excited? Because you should be. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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