9 Warning Signs That The Person You’re With Is Completely Selfish

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Isaac Castillejos

Selfish (adjective) self·ish : concerned excessively or exclusively with oneself seeking or concentrating on one’s own advantage, pleasure, or well-being without regard for others.

Ironically, people who are selfish are usually unaware of the fact, believing they are genuinely nice people. A selfish person cares only about themselves (obviously) and creating happiness for them, regardless of how others are affected. Individuals who are extremely caring and emotionally understanding are typically the ones who are “used and abused” by the selfish. In the beginning, they will seem caring and looking to pamper you, but only long enough for you to let your guard down.

Here are a few signs you should be aware of in order to spot a selfish person:


You never see their weak side. The ego of a selfish person will not allow for vulnerability.


They are entitled. They feel they have things because they deserve it. Don’t get me wrong here, it’s okay to feel that you’ve worked and have earned something. Like a house or new car or whatever. But, you are not entitled to it. It can be taken away from you in the blink of an eye.


Selfish people also have a hard time accepting being wrong. If you don’t agree with them, they will simply ignore your inferior opinion.


In the beginning, they are super friendly and come across as someone who would do anything to help. But once you get to know them, you realize that they are only looking out for number one.


They will never commit to something or someone unless they are getting some sort of benefit from it.


They don’t take anything too seriously and seem carefree. Unless it’s about them, of course. You can be going through something awful and they will make you feel like an idiot for being upset.


They always find a way to get out of it when you turn to them for help. Even though they ask favors from others all the time. Just because you make a sacrifice for them does not mean they would do the same for you.


They are great manipulators, unable to consider the implications of their own actions and how they may affect others. Don’t ever expect this person to recognize their mistakes and apologize for them.


Total control freak. Doing things their way is the only way. They will go to any length to see that things are done their way, regardless of who could be affected by their actions.

Realization and acceptance are the first steps to getting the hell away from these people. Selfish people do not change, so don’t waste your energy attempting to change them. Treat them exactly how they’re treating you. It’s impossible to comprehend the feeling of being damaged by someone unless you’ve felt it yourself. One you’ve given them a sample of their own toxic cocktail, slowly drift away and never look back. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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