9 Things You Need To Know Before Dating A Middle Child

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First thing’s first: Middle children are genuinely independent folks. If the truth be told, alone time is vital to existence. Their older sibling was way cooler than they were growing up, and didn’t exactly like them tagging along. The younger sibling was (as to be expected) being taken care of and preoccupying their parents, which taught them to entertain themselves and do things without asking for help. Try not to take it personally if they don’t want to spend every second of every day with you.


They pride themselves in being unique. They’ve engaged themselves in finding ways to stand out and be set apart from their siblings for years. This also means they are hardworking and dedicated. Note: at least 52% of U.S. Presidents have been middle children.


They are extremely trusting, accepting, and easy-going. In fact, there is even a statistic that shows 80% of middle children never straying in a relationship.


Middle children have extraordinary negotiating skills. Being in the middle taught them to be exactly that. Effortlessly navigating through conflict, landing on middle ground. Conflict is one thing they tend to stay away from.


They are extremely understanding. Growing up with parents who are trying to disperse their time equally between three or more children, they have a keen sense of consideration when it comes to priorities. Likewise, constructing a flexible “go-with-the-flow” kind of partner. Making their partner happy is the ultimate goal, which isn’t necessarily always a good thing.


They can be hard to read. Being the peacekeeper leaves them feeling conflicted at times. Sometimes even if you hurt their feelings, they’ll keep quiet about it in order to avoid disturbing the peace. Encourage them to open up and share their thoughts and feelings.


They are excellent nurturers. They’ve babied their younger sibling for so long, it comes naturally.


Never insult their siblings. Even though they may do some trash talking, do not chime in with your opinion. They might cut you.


Middle children are marriage material. They prefer long-term relationships and being friends with their partner just as much as romantic. Furthermore, middle children report having more satisfaction in their sex lives than both oldest and youngest siblings, and are more adventurous in the bedroom. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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