7. I’m not in love anymore and I want out.
“I’m not in love anymore and I want out.”
8. We’re both on anti-depressants which have totally messed with our sex drives.
“We’re both on anti-depressants which have totally messed with our sex drives. We’ve been together 11 years and we were both on them before we met. She has never really had much of a sex drive and I did a little bit but I’ve gotten on more pills in the last few months which has driven it down a little. She can have orgasms, which I’m thankful for, so when we do have longer sex sessions, it means more and I don’t feel inadequate about being the only one getting anything. When I was in school last year we went on a big stretch from September until December without doing it and even after then, we’ve probably done it 3-5 times.”
9. My ex used to use sex as a way to get what she wanted.
“My ex used to use sex as a way to get what she wanted. Used to use it as tool to manipulate (She’s a certified narcissist) after about a year together I caught on. I completely stopped initiating sex I would go rub one out. She could come to me whenever she wanted but I would never initiate. This went on for 4 years before I figured out you can’t have a relationship with a narcissist. It’s all give, no give and take.”
10. She had a complete mental breakdown and no longer bathes.
“My wife had a complete mental breakdown in ’09 and can no longer work. She is diagnosed bipolar and has extreme anxiety. Unfortunately, one of the things she has anxiety about is bathing, so it doesn’t happen very often. I love my wife, but the lack of hygiene combined with the added stress of taking care of the family mostly on my own means that I’m not in the mood very often. We’ve had sex I think once or twice in the past year.”
11. Got tired of doing all the work and following the exact same script every time.
“Got tired of doing all the work and following the exact same script every time. Took me a while but I finally got the hint.”
12. She gained over 100 lbs., and I am just not attracted anymore.
“She gained over 100 lbs., and I am just not attracted anymore.
This happened over the 12 years we have been married. She’s the love of my life and has given me 2 children. We have talked about it, but it’s not easy. The problem is, she’s lazy, and we’ve talked about that, too. Honestly, I’ve been through an emotional roller coaster of everything from acceptance to resentment to depression. It’s the single biggest stressor in my life (maybe that means I’m lucky, since others have it worse). In the end, I can’t justify splitting up our family over it, so I just deal with it.”