27 Things Women Need To Know About Men (But Don’t)
Found on AskReddit.
1. Every so often, we would like to be told we’re attractive.
“Even for those of us who are reasonably conventionally attractive, there’s a pretty strong chance that nobody has sincerely told us we are attractive for long periods of our lives. Getting hit on is one thing, but getting sincerely and directly told you are an attractive person? For lots of us it literally doesn’t happen, at all – or it happens so rarely that it can be hard for us to trust.”
—ArtOfFailure
2. We’d all love to get asked out every once in a while.
“We’d all love to get asked out every once in a while.”
—PM_ME_NUDES_PLEASE_
3. We like compliments, too.
“Women like compliments. So do men. Just as much. In fact, we’re so used to not hearing them it’ll most likely take us a moment to register what happened. But it will brighten our day. This concept of men chase, women receive, is an old paradigm that needs to be tossed out the window. Should be everyone chase everyone.”
—Brachiozord
4. We want you to start the conversation sometimes.
“Sometimes you should start the conversation. It’s not all on us to pick up your little cues that make sense only to you half the time.”
—Cloner554
5. We’ve been conditioned to be ashamed of showing weakness.
“We aren’t walls of stone. We’ve just been conditioned to be ashamed of showing weakness. I’ve seen women ask men to open up and then not know what to do when it happens.”
—I_Am_Not_Me
6. We can’t always be the strong one.
“Sometimes being the rock in the relationship is slowly tiring us out.”
—Ihavereasons
7. We would rather fix your problem than listen about it.
“If you come to us with something bothering you, our first reaction is to try and fix whatever that is so you feel better and we get points for making you feel better. It’s taken me a long time to figure out you girls don’t always want it fixed, you just need to tell somebody what’s bothering you.”
—misterpickles69
8. We have emotions, too.
“We have emotions, too.”
—serac145
9. Sometimes we like to be alone, and it has nothing to do with you.
“Having alone time has nothing to do with our feelings towards you. Sometimes we just like to go one entire day with zero things on our mind.”
—RodeoClip
10. Sometimes we just like to be quiet.
“Sometimes we just like to be quiet. Nothing wrong just because we’re not smiling, we really just like to chill.”
—inmate990
11. We like to snuggle.
“Most guys like to snuggle.”
—DJ21384
12. If you fake an orgasm, it won’t make us better lovers.
“If you fake an orgasm, it makes us think you had an orgasm. this makes it hard for us to improve and give you an actual orgasm. you’re only hurting yourself when you fake it.”
—SinkTube
13. We can be insecure, too.
“We can be insecure too, that’s not just female exclusive thing.
—MidnightRanger
14. We’re not always thinking of sex.
“We’re not always thinking of sex. In fact, sometimes we’re not in the mood for it.”
—Dudebroman_5000
15. Not replying to messages/texts hurts us, too.
“Not replying to messages/texts hurts us, too; fair enough if you haven’t looked at it or have been busy, looking at it and deciding not to reply sucks. Also we don’t get subtle hints too well.”
—Masterdude
16. Sometimes we like to be the little spoon.
“Sometimes we like to be the little spoon.”
—CosmicCouchPotato
17. We can’t read your mind.
“We’re not dumb. We’re reasonable and not mind-readers.”
—gray_rain
18. Sometimes we’re really thinking of nothing.
“When you ask us what we’re thinking about and we say nothing, we mean it. Sometimes there really is nothing going on in our heads.”
—cynical_arsehole
19. We don’t need to talk about our day at work or school.
“When I get home, go outside and beat the shit out of my punching bag for 5, 10, 15, hell sometimes 30 minutes, I come back inside with slightly bloody knuckles with a giant smile on my face and seem perfectly happy, I am. I don’t need to talk about my day at work or school because i just told the bag exactly how I felt. So for the love of god don’t ask me about it for at least a week because otherwise I will get pissed again and knuckles hurt after a while.”
—Jdm5544
20. You need to get lower when giving a BJ.
“A NSFW tip: Get lower when giving a BJ. If you have your guy standing up, and you’re on your knees, get yourself a bit lower than you instinctively would. Pull his dick down to your mouth. If you do this, you’re looking up at him, and that’s super fucking hot. Watch any POV porn star blow job. Their head isn’t facing down with their eyes straining to look up, they are positioned so that they can look up more naturally. Obviously, we appreciate it however you do it. So do what you want. But even doing this for a brief while during a blow job will do a lot for the visuals. Also, if you’re both into facials, this is the way to do it.”
—GWstorytime
21. Some of us are OK with your small boobs or small butt.
“Some of us are OK with your small boobs or small butt. Don’t sweat over it, you’ll find a guy who loves your itty bitty A cups. And if you have a ‘meh’ butt, you’ll find a guy who will love your meh butt.”
—121PB4Y2
22. Withholding sex is the surest way to push us away.
“Withholding sex is the surest way to put one of our feet out of the door. We can look over a lot. You can have a third eye, or a hairy back, hell you can turn out to be a man, but withholding sex, even if the reasons feel good to you, will never end well.”
—kixxaxxas
23. Gender equality also means walking up to us and inviting us to dinner.
“Gender equality also means walking up to us and inviting us to dinner. It’s wrong for a guy to think that if you invite a girl for an expensive dinner she’ll have to sleep with you after. it’s also wrong for a girl to expect to be invited to a nice dinner because ‘that’s how it works’.”
—yupynut
24. Don’t ever call us useless or a bad provider.
“If you care for your man but for some reason are angry at him. You can call him many things like fat, ugly, stubborn, etc. But please, never call him useles, or a bad provider. That will truly and deeply hurt him. We as guys (most of us) feel validated by knowing we can resolve situations, provide to our loved ones, and be handy whenever is needed.”
—pantsthatlast
25. Don’t argue with us if we compliment you; just accept the compliment.
“If I give you a compliment or tell you that I think you are beautiful, amazing, gorgeous, fantastic, stunning etc. Don’t argue with me! This is my opinion of you. I wouldn’t tell you that if I didn’t mean it!”
—Enrgkid
26. We can’t bitch away problems like you can.
“We can’t bitch away problems. Talking to the manager only gets us a response of “I’m sorry you feel that way sir, is there anything else I can help you with?” The most recent example I can think of was getting power on in my last apartment and a co-worker and her mother kept repeating, over and over, to call and demand they do it NOW! I tried to explain it’s the weekend, they can’t send anyone out till Monday, there is a priority schedule they go by etc. They would not. let. up. If you are a woman and are in distress, society is conditioned to help you. If you are a man in distress, you are seen as whiny and useless, kwitcherbitchin’.”
—Ultravioletgray
27. We are straightforward; we can also move our dicks slightly on command.
“We can move our dicks slightly on command…That’s about all you probably don’t know, guys are straightforward, not like the complex emotional nexus known as the human female.”