4. ‘He was emotionally abusive, constantly telling me I wasn’t good enough, telling me my body was gross.’
“He was emotionally abusive, constantly telling me I wasn’t good enough, telling me my body was gross, watched porn 24/7 (no problem with porn as long as it’s not chosen over me, real live sex), and every time I tried to break up with him he’d threaten to kill himself. He forced me into an engagement in exchange for ‘allowing’ me to join the military. Someone finally showed interest in me, showed me I was worthy of love, and I cheated. Broke up with ‘fiancé’ quickly after and never looked back. I’m now happily married to the guy I cheated on and could never imagine hurting him that way. It would kill me.
I’m married to the man I cheated with, not on. The abusive ex is out of the picture, even though I occasionally still have nightmares.”
5. ‘A lot of the time I didn’t feel wanted.’
“I was in a LDR for a long time and we didn’t really see each other that much. Once a year really. Because of that the sexual side of our relationship wasn’t that great. Both of us were too shy and timid to really do anything about it. And a lot of the time I didn’t feel wanted. So occasionally I would hook up with guys online, didn’t really think much of it.
Then last year I went back to school and met this really great guy who makes me feel wanted. He makes a move on me and I don’t stop him, and we don’t stop for a few months. I don’t really think anything of it, I knew I really liked this guy but I thought I loved my (ex) boyfriend more. But when he came down to visit, I saw him and realized that I didn’t really love him after all, not like I thought I did. So I broke it off.”
6. ‘I had already broken up with him in my mind.’
“I had already broken up with him in my mind. He was abusive and we lived together. I had lined up an apartment but wasn’t able to move in for another month. I craved affection and positive attention and met a nice guy at work. It all just kind of happened.”
