27 Women Confess Why They Cheated On Their Significant Other

25. ‘His inability to trust ANYONE resulted in constant fighting.’

“I was in a long-distance relationship with a boy from my hometown for almost two years. We were together for about 6 non-consecutive months of those (almost) two years. From start to finish of our relationship he’d always had trust issues from previous cheaters. I’d never cheated before and I had most certainly never given him a reason to not trust me in any of the time we were together. Sure the majority of my friends at the time were males, but sometimes it’s harder to get along with girls in high school. (He had dropped out of high school and was three years older than me.) I assured him he never had to worry about any such thing, but this mixed with his inability to trust ANYONE resulted in constant fighting. I was constantly trying. So. Hard.

To make him feel at ease over text messages, phone calls, and FaceTime throughout our entire relationship. I couldn’t hang out with any of my friends, I couldn’t go to any kind of party or even hang out with my family without him needing to be talking to me 24/7. At one point, I went to vacation with family across the country in D.C. and one of my very favorite rappers was in town. My cousin and I made plans to go. I was so excited BC I had never seen a rap concert, especially someone so well known. We saw The Game. When I told him he immediately was upset and wanted me not to go. I cried because I could not understand how all this time when I had been trying to be the best girlfriend I could for him, he still didn’t trust me to go out this one time for my birthday WITH FAMILY. And even when I tried to explain how badly I wanted to. Anyways I ended up going BC fuck all that. I’m the drive home he actually wanted me to send him a photo of the car I was in with my cousin to make sure no boys were with me. It was this kind of BS every time I went out.

Fast-forward five months and I’m a junior in high school, horny as can be you know with all the raging hormones a teenager has. And I’m absolutely. Fed. Up. With the constant manipulative and controlling behavior of every moment of my high school years. These are supposed to be the best times of my life. How could I enjoy them when I can’t even do something as simple as attend a party without having my phone blow up with an angry boyfriend? I’m pissed and I said fuck it. I fucked another guy who had been flirting with me. I think the main reason I cheated was because I was. Really. Really. Horny and I hadn’t had sex in a while, with the ld and all, but I sort of didn’t give a shit about doing it bc of how frustrated I was. My strongest efforts were always being shot down and never appreciated. I was angry. I told him and, of course he flipped but stayed with me ? Two months later I went to a party the night before Valentine’s. Shit is blown out of proportion as I’m leaving the party to my uncle’s house for the night. He is blowing my phone again and again I’m trying to reassure him. He calls, I’m bawling my eyes out, and I say something along the lines of, ‘I’m trying to live out my youth, why is this such a problem?’ He says ‘Fine, go out find yourself but do it single.’ I’ve absolutely had it. I’m not even hurt that we’re over after all we’ve been through anymore. I tell em all right. Good bye. We’re done. The texts and calls keep coming, not surprised. He calls me the next morning, crying, trying to reconcile. I’m having none of it. A few more days of trying to get him off of my case and he’s talking about suicide. He begins harassing me and I have no fucks to be given about him or us at this point. Sorry for the essay and rambling. I don’t think I’ve ever told anyone the extent of all this which, I wish I still could. The question has been answered more than enough.

TLDR: long distance bf never trusted me for the two-year duration of ‘us.’ I was fed up and horny so I fucked another guy.”

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26. ‘I tried to break up with him multiple times, and he would make me stay by saying he would kill himself if I left.’

“I was 17. My boyfriend was 19 and 20 hours away at tech school for the Air Force. I realized while he was gone that he was an abusive piece of shit. I tried to break up with him multiple times, and he would make me stay by saying he would kill himself if I left. I had a crush on some kid in my grade so I made out with him at a party, and told my boyfriend the next day. He didn’t want to stay with me after that. I was very glad that worked.”

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