27 Women Confess Why They Cheated On Their Significant Other

23. ‘I realized just how unhappy I was.’

“My (ex) boyfriend and I were long distance for a majority of our relationship; we were together for about 8 months and 5 of those were long-distance and he knew I would be moving back into the area in the summer. In those 5 months, he cheated on me twice with two different girls. When I ever voiced my concern about them but didn’t know yet, he told I was tiring him out and that he didn’t have to go about his life making sure everything he did was okay by me. I was hurt, thought I was overreacting, and dropped the subject.

Two weeks before I moved back, he told me about the girls and how he didn’t want me to hate him and how he was the worst. I was angry, sad, cried for a week, and then I just felt numb. He kept asking me to give him another chance and that he knew he’d hurt me, but he couldn’t help himself, that that was just the way he operated and he needed someone who was actually there. He also knew my previous ex before him left me for that exact same reason. I told him I forgave him (not sure if I ever did), but that when I was back, he’d have to start all over again. He ended up acting as if everything was normal and I got sucked into it; we had sex the very first night I was home. When I came back, he seemed to care less about me as a person and more about the fact he had someone he could fuck. I always felt like crying after every time we had sex and he didn’t ever seem to care.

I ended up getting close to one of his friends. At first it was simply to complain to someone who knew my boyfriend about the relationship troubles I was having, how I felt like he didn’t care, stuff like that, but my mentality at the time was that things weren’t that bad, that he was happy, and I wasn’t miserable. It eventually became that his friend was my only emotional support I had in this relationship and I realized just how unhappy I was. I tried to break up with my boyfriend but I didn’t try hard enough. I caved when he offered a break instead and that he’d try harder.

I ended up sleeping with his friend two days later because we went on a date and he actually cared. I didn’t feel miserable, I knew he liked me, and it was exciting. I knew it was something I shouldn’t do and it heightened my senses. I never thought about how it would hurt my boyfriend and I deeply regret having done it now, but I also know now that I should’ve taken charge and broken up with him.

That friend, however, is now my boyfriend and we’ve been going strong for over a year. I will never be able to justify cheating on my ex-boyfriend but I can safely say I’ve never been happier and that I would never dream of cheating ever again. He’s given me so much emotional support and more. He helped me when I was stuck between a rock and a hard place and didn’t even know it. And for that, I love him deeply.”

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24. ‘I was constantly being accused of cheating, and constantly defending myself and trying to prove my fidelity.’

“I cheated in an LTR once. I was constantly being accused of it, and constantly defending myself and trying to prove my fidelity. When the chance came to cheat, I thought, ‘Well, I’m being punished for nothing. Might as well do something to deserve it.’ Later on, I found out he had been cheating on me, which was one reason that led to our breakup. It was a fucked-up relationship all around.”

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