20. ‘I just wanted my ex out of my life but I should have been honest.’
“My ex and I were still living with one another. She wanted one last hurrah and wouldn’t leave it alone. I could have done a lot of things differently and I’m filled with regret, but that ruined the beginning of the best relationship I’ve ever had. It destroyed trust and it’s all my fault. Aside from other issues this was a big error but it has forced me to become better than who I was. I just wanted my ex out of my life but I should have been honest. Lying is a death sentence for relationships.”
21. ‘I met another girl around this same time who I fell in love with almost instantly.’
“My girlfriend and I had been dating for around 3 months when I just started falling out of love with her. The sex was still pretty good, we never fought or anything, I don’t have one specific reason for falling out of love but I did anyway.
Eventually we did have our first argument about something that made me realize that she kind of started taking me for granted. She still loved (still loves) me very much, but she began expecting me to solve all of her problems for her. Eventually started feeling more like a caretaker than a boyfriend because she wanted so much out of me. Not necessarily gold-digging, but when I brought up this issue she didn’t really seem to understand why it would bother me. Kind of was a red flag.
Anyway, I met another girl around this same time who I fell in love with almost instantly, everything about her is intoxicating. I never really believed in love at first sight (still don’t) but I imagine it’s pretty damn close to how I felt, if it’s real. Took me two or three days of talking to her, just platonic, before we started getting a lot closer and it turned into a mini relationship of sorts—no labels, but the communication/feelings/etc. was all there.
I broke up with my girlfriend, but I didn’t tell her that this was the reason why because she was still very much into me and I didn’t want to hurt her more than I had to.
I know it was definitely a dick move but at the time it seemed like the best and easiest way to handle it. I don’t regret it.”