46. Sometimes it doesn’t make sense and there is nothing you can do about it.
“Sometimes it doesn’t make sense and there is nothing you can do about it. Even if you did nothing wrong yourself.”
47. Prepare to be demonized.
“Absolutely prepare to be demonized. Opinions can change fast. Even if they say they want a clean breakup that doesn’t mean that they will still think that way in a week or a month. In my case it got worse a few months after and absolutely exploded two years after the fact. There will be accusations and spin. No matter what.
Any problems they had during the time you were dating will now be your fault, even if those problems continue post-breakup. Anything that can be misconstrued or exaggerated to sound like abuse or neglect will be.
Nothing ever really ends. Your lives intertwined and at some point and they will mention you to other people, and then that is a first impression you don’t get to make.
Friends might cut you out of their lives entirely without listening to your side of the story. People make rushed and sometimes bad decisions when they have someone literally begging them for help.
When something like this becomes a conflict however, you will see the people in your life who are willing to stand up for you even when they have nothing to gain from it. I can tell you vividly how every single friend and family member I had reacted and that’s still something I think about constantly.”