22. I pretended I have a weird, autistic aversion to being touched.
“Pretty much my whole family thinks I have some weird, autistic aversion to being touched. Basically I have a male family member who is ‘accidentally’ handsy a lot, and when I’d object to the way he touched me, he’d start in on the whole, ‘Gee, what’s wrong with you? You must be crazy to be upset by this.’ So eventually I just played into that. Yep, I’m crazy. Totally crazy enough to make a huge scene the next time your hand brushes my butt. Crazy enough to call down all this attention on you. So yeah, my family thinks I’m a weirdo who can’t handle human contact, but I don’t get ‘accidentally’ groped by that relative anymore.”
23. I pretended I was his girlfriend so he could ‘break up’ with me and leave me alone.
“Ugh…this is so bad. But this guy I went on a date with twice when I was about 21 was so into me, but I told him I wasn’t ready for a relationship and wasn’t interested. He kept bugging me, and finally he was being sarcastic and said he could call me his girlfriend, so basically he told everyone I was his girlfriend and then drove by my house repeatedly to see if I was home. I would hide out, etc. …I finally let him ‘break up’ with me because I wasn’t being attentive enough. It actually worked and he finally left me alone. It was allowing him some control and then getting ‘rid’ of me that did it. He would have it the other way. He wasn’t violent, just really socially awkward and a bit unsure of himself. It’s almost like he needed some control of something, and if it made him feel better to say he had me as a girlfriend, then so be it.”