14 Men On What They Hate The Most About Being Men

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1. we can’t be raped

“Apparently if you’re a guy and you get raped by a girl, you’re lucky…”

2. we can’t show weakness

“Being expected to show invulnerability.”

3. we can’t cry

“Being judged negatively for crying or having emotions. We’re human, too.”

4. we can’t be the little spoon

“Always having to be manly; guys like to be the little spoon, too.”

5. we can’t talk to kids

“I can’t talk to a kid that isn’t mine without their parents thinking I’m a predatory pedophile, while any woman can address them unhindered.”

6. we have double the suicide rate of women

“Gonna take a morbid turn and say…at least doubling the suicide rate of women. Turns out, women are more likely to attempt suicide, but men are more likely to do it well. Apparently, trying to better men’s health and rights is consider anti-feminism.”

7. we do double the jail time of women

“Getting double jail time on average. Probably not gonna get custody. Much more likely to be abandoned by family.”

8. the ‘masculinity’ trap

“The pressure of what society deems ‘masculinity’, and how ‘real’ men aren’t supposed to show, or even feel emotion, lest they be accused of being a pussy, or a homosexual, or what have you. That’s not to say I have anything against gay people. Just that if you show even a modicum of emotion, you’re deemed by many of your male counterparts as ‘not a real man.’ And I think that’s total bullshit.”

9. society sees us as expendable

“How much society sees you as expendable and generally just doesn’t give a shit about you.”

10. we pay for the majority of everything

“Being the provider. Paying for the majority of everything. Being expected to earn the money to go to a mortgage, vacations, education for kids, furniture, etc. This comes with having a greater burden to take jobs that make more money but are also much more stressful. Women are more free to pursue interests as their careers (photography, art, music) and can do the same while raising a family. Men don’t have that luxury. Speaking in generalities, of course. There will always be exceptions, but the above is true for the most part.”

11. manning up

“‘Manning up.’ Yes I know I’m a grown man but goddamn sometimes I want to sit down and have a good cry once a year when all the shit going on reaches its max.”

12. we’re typecast as the fool

“Why is it okay to criticize ‘predominantly male’ hobbies like sports, video games, cars, comics, D&D, etc… But it’s not okay to criticize ‘predominantly female’ hobbies? It sure seems like it’s way more okay to laugh at men, while comedy involving women is usually laughing with women. I don’t think many women will ever understand the concept of ‘being the fool.’”

13. we’re treated like creeps

“If I’m walking down the street with a female in front of me I feel like I need to slow down and create a larger gap so she doesn’t feel threatened. I don’t think I come off as creepy in any way but I worry about her feeling of safety.”

14. we’re seen as unemotional

“No matter how masculine we look, we still need affection. Happened in the last three relationships. They thought I was hardcore looking man whose heart can’t be broken. You thought wrong.” Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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