14 People Confess To How They Became Cheaters And Why Most Don’t Plan On Stopping

10. Because He Feels Unloved

I get happy-ending massages. My wife has no sex drive whatsoever. My marriage feels so lonely. There’s affection, but no spark in her eyes, no kissing, no desire. She understands that I want there to be physical intimacy in the relationship, but she doesn’t see the point. I’ve made it very clear (through counseling) how it makes me feel unloved.

I would have left except that she has shown herself to be unable to care for our children when I’m away. If I’m away on business for a week, the kids will miss one or two days of school and will be behind on their homework when I come back.

Paying women for an erotic experience helps fill the gap somewhat. There’s no emotional attachment, but at least I get to be with another person and get a sense of what it would be like to have a normal, full relationship with my wife.

My wife has said before that she wouldn’t mind if I slept with another woman, except that she would be uncomfortable that it would lead to me having feelings for the other woman. I wish she would see that this argument also means that an intimate relationship between her and me might deepen our feelings for each other.

So I pay women for erotic massage. I don’t go as far as oral sex or full intercourse. There’s no risk of a romance developing. It seems to be within the bounds of what my wife had suggested, but I’m not going to tell her about it.

11. Some Things You Can’t Take Back

I cheated on my first wife repeatedly out of anger, frustration, immaturity, and a whole host of other reasons. Then my wife died of cancer. Now I spend every day since living with the guilt and shame which is 100 times worse than anything that happened before. Never again.

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  • http://eraserhead88.wordpress.com eraserhead88

    1. If you just fall in love with someone else while you are in relationship – it does mean this relationship just wasn’t right. It happens cause we get to know each other every day and not every time we feel like ‘this is it’.

    2. If someone’s cheating only because he/she was betrayed in the past – sorry, it’s not excuse for me. People are not toys. And I knew people in the past who picked the girl/boy, made her fell in love only because they wanted to break a heart… It’s awful. I believe in karma – everything goes back to us sooner or later. If someone has broken your heart – try to give as much as you can (good) to someone new.

    3. ‘Cheating has kept my marriage alive’ – that’s okay if both of them know about it and they don’t mind. For some people sex is just a sex and has nothing about love – I understand.

    4. ‘Cheaters cheat because they don’t respect themselves’ – sorry, but i think they just don’t know what ‘respect’ means. Its nothing about don’t respect themselves, it’s about don’t care about someone’s feelings. If you are with someone and you think about others just finish this! That person must be fun, clever, lovely or whatever if you decided hanging out with her/him, don’t ruin her/his heart, just say ‘goodbye’ in the right way.

  • http://dripcoffeecowgirl.wordpress.com drip-coffee-cowgirl

    Cheating is so pathetic. These fuckers should either call themselves polyamorous, cut off the relationship, or be honest and clear about their needs and work something out. The thing is, if you’re not going to be honest, you don’t deserve a significant other. These kinds of things really screw people up. Sounds like there’s a lot of immaturity in these “confessions”.

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  • http://allensrepositoryofstuff.wordpress.com allensrepositoryofstuff

    Never ceases to amaze me how people will fuck up a perfectly great relationship chasing something new or shiny. Man (or woman) up and realize that you do not have to bite every little tease that is offered. For many men, it is an ego trip to pick up lots of women.

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