This Is How You Date The Broken Girl

This Is How You Date The Broken Girl

I know some of you want someone to date that is easy to be with;

Some girl you can just start a relationship with without much effort, but you see with the broken girls, you need to work for us.

You see we are the ones who have been through a lot;

we are the ones who might appear to be okay, but deep down we are hurting.

We are the broken ones, the ones who have been through too much heartbreak,

too much fighting.

We are the ones who have tried and tried to make other relationships work,

try to make our friends better people,

try to make our families work it out.

But no matter how hard we try, we are simply not enough to change other people.

We are the ones who give it all to other people and end up not getting the same in return.

We are the ones who are insecure because the ones we have loved have repeatedly hurt us,

have screamed in our faces,

have hurt us beyond words can comprehend.

We are the broken girls;

and even though we have been through so much,

we are the ones who deserve to be loved.

We are the ones who deserve to be healed by love.

We are the ones who deserve the world.

You date the broken girl by understanding that she needs time,

she needs patience,

She needs a certain type of kindness and gentleness that only certain people can handle.

Only certain people can understand the broken girls, the hurt ones, the ones who have been through a lot and have their guard up.

You date the broken girl by understanding that it is going to take time.

It is going to take a certain amount of patience.

It is going to take hard work to bring her guard down;

because believe me that guard will be put up high from past lovers,

From people who have hurt her,

From people who have taught her not to trust.

You date the broken girl by understanding that pain can transform you,

Pain and hurt and heartache can make someone change who they are at their core.

It can cause someone to change every inch of their life and where they imagined their life would be.

But when you date the broken girl, she will teach you how diamonds are created under such pressure;

How damaged people can heal themselves

How broken girls can transform into something beautiful.

It takes a strong person to face their hurt and transform it into healing.

It takes a broken girl to heal into a strong woman who has seen the hurt but still believes in love;

Still believes that there is good in the world

Still believes that there is hope that she can heal herself and maybe you can help her heal too.

Maybe you will be the one to make her believe in the power of healing,

Make her believe in the power that love can really transform anyone broken into someone new again.

Because maybe all of us are a little broken

And we just needed a little bit of love, forgiveness and patience to see it through Thought Catalog Logo Mark


About the author

Laura Kennedy

Writer and bad dancer navigating through life with her words