What Each Myers-Briggs Type Is Like When They’re Flirting, In A Fling, And In A Relationship


Flirting: Teases you constantly, almost making you question if they actually like you or just like making fun of you, but is just playful enough that you believe it’s the former…you think.

Fling: Likes the idea of seeing all the possibilities, but determines they won’t hook-up or invest in anyone unless they form a strong emotional connection to them; forgets they easily form strong emotional connections with absolutely anyone they are interested in.

Relationship: Brings all their enthusiasm to the relationship, is determined to let their partner know how loved and capable they are every single day, regardless of what they are going for, and never stops trying to inspire them.


Flirting: Figures out how the person ticks, challenges practically everything they say and almost completely annoys them until the last second where they turn on all the charm they possess and sweeps them off their feet.

Fling: Pretends they are only seeing the one person, when in fact they have five other people they’ve probably forgotten about for the moment.

Relationship: Makes sure their partner could never possibly complain about being bored. Is endlessly entertaining with their constant “brand new entrepreneurial idea that they just thought of 5 seconds ago.”


Flirting: Knows exactly what they want to say in their heads, and even in words but stumbles over their words awkwardly and haphazardly when they approach their crush. Somehow still comes off as effortlessly and hilariously adorable.

Fling: Spends the entire time pretending like they know this is totally casual, and they kind of do but are convinced they can crack open the person’s heart and actually fall in love if they can just spend enough time with them.

Relationship: Is the biggest hopeless romantic known to humanity and showers their partner with unlimited amounts of love and affection, all while understanding said partner in ways they didn’t even understand themselves.


Flirting: Is incredibly sarcastic (as usual) but it seems more playful than cynical. Actually makes you feel like they might enjoy being in your company.

Fling: Is interested in spending time with you until it becomes too draining, too much effort, or too complicated, and then vanishes without a trace.

Relationship: Will actually go out of their way to spend time with you and learn everything they possibly can about you. Uses this information to try and make the relationship as smooth and happy as possible, though sometimes methods feel more pragmatic than romantic- but in a really sweet way.


Flirting: Says you two should get to know each other, then proceeds to ask you everything about your life and your interests until you realize…you don’t know them at all.

Fling: Takes the time to meet all of your needs without requiring the commitment, but secretly hopes this will indeed get you to commit and hopes you reciprocate accordingly.

Relationship: Goes above and beyond to take care of everything you could ever need, even before you think of it. Is the farthest thing from boring but also helps you get your life together, even if you didn’t actually ask for it- but they’re so much fun to be around you honestly don’t mind.


Flirting: Does everything to make sure you’re comfortable, and laughs at all of your jokes, even if they aren’t funny whatsoever.

Fling: Might be willing to go along with the idea of being “casual”- if it’s really what you want- but will honestly hate every single second of it.

Relationship: Does every possible thing they can to make sure you’re comfortable and happy. Takes care of you in every practical and emotionally possible way you’ve never realized you needed.


Flirting: Low-key boasts about themselves in hopes you’ll take notice. Takes charge of any interaction that happens between the two of you.

Fling: Takes the time to engage in a fling just to see what all the fuss is about- yet immediately cuts it off after assessing that there isn’t much potential.

Relationship: Takes into account all of your practical needs and provides for all of them without any hesitation. Goes out of their way to protect you. Confident in just about any situation except ones that involve emotions- yet still finds a way to add them to the to-do list so they get taken care of.


Flirting: Goes by the book on how to court someone. No literally, they most likely find and reads a book about how to court someone and follows it’s instructions to the tee.

Fling:  HA. Would rather fling themselves off a building than waste time on a “fling.”

Relationship: Is essentially the most devoted and loyal partner imaginable. Will absolutely invest in your relationship until they die- if for no other reason than they just don’t like change, but more so because they are pretty crazy about you and see a future with you.


Flirting: Appears very calm, cool, and collected but is secretly nervous talking to their crush- yet not so nervous that they don’t make their feelings known and on the table.

Fling: Tries out the concept of being casual, only to smother the heck out of the other person with constantly checking in on their well-being and emotional state. Is confused on why the person has stopped replying to their texts.

Relationship: Is determined to encourage you to be the best possible version of yourself, even if you’d rather just sit at home and play video games. Will shower you with unparalleled affection and adoration. Will try to fix any and all problems you may run into, while simultaneously forgetting to take care of themselves.


Flirting: Convinces themselves they don’t know how to flirt. Acts awkward around their crush. Finally gets comfortable, relaxes, and actually flirts with their crush. Realizes this, and becomes self-conscious. Repeat.

Fling: Makes a tinder profile, engages in it for about 24-48 hours, then promptly deletes everything before any potential fling can even start.

Relationship: Keeps their emotional guard up for a considerable period, test once they establish they can trust you, they will open up your entire world to their incredible thoughts and deeply empathetic nature- and you’ll wonder how anyone else could’ve ever understood you this much.


Flirting: Shamelessly shows off in front of you at every possible opportunity until you’re impressed with them.

Fling: Has at least 15 flings going that they’re balancing between all that adventurous stuff they tend to do, and they’re having entirely too much fun doing it.

Relationship: Will never allow you to have a dull moment as long as you’re together as long as you can keep up with them. Challenges you to take on new adventures and to take their hand to dive headfirst into any and every exciting thing they can imagine.


Flirting: Will sarcastically tease you without end, yet will become extremely protective and defensive of you when someone else attempts the same behavior.

Fling: Intrigues anyone into wanting to hook up with them just so they can see if they’re honest to god that laid-back. They are- so much so that you probably won’t hear from them except once every couple of weeks.

Relationship: Finds a way to help you experience how to live life at the moment- even if that’s typically something you have trouble with. Requires a lot of space and alone time, but finds they actually do enjoy your company and will incorporate you into their life more and more, which translates into hardcore devotion.


Flirting: Literally says all the right things, does all the right things, and does them so effortlessly it makes you question your own flirting skills, regardless of your confidence level.

Fling: Is so charismatic that about 13 people have thrown themselves in their direction, and they enjoy having all the options so much that they’ll casually date everyone for as long as they don’t grow bored of them.

Relationship: Is incredibly passionate and elated about experiencing life with you. Their spontaneous streak will probably excite and stress you out simultaneously, but they’re so charming that you’ll probably go along with it and realize just how much fun it can be. Will express their love for you in about a thousand different ways.


Flirting: Easily and accidentally flirts with people they aren’t remotely interested in, yet totally clams up around the person they like the most.

Fling: Pretends to be really into the whole casual dating thing, but is secretly using it just to keep you at arm’s length until they can determine whether or not you’re relationship material.

Relationship: Is difficult to get to know, and likes it that way, but will allow you into their heads once they feel they can trust you. Makes you feel at ease anytime you’re around them and is brimming with all the creativity the world could possibly fit inside a person. Will probably use you as their muse more than once.


Flirting: Will make the first move without hesitation. Will make it clear they like you and then play up their own strengths so you naturally see why you should want to be with them.

Fling: Sees a fling as an absolute waste of time, they have 18,000 other goals to focus their attention on anyway.

Relationship: Does anything and everything to help you succeed in whatever you’ve set your mind to. Constantly motivates you to be a better version of yourself. Doesn’t entirely show emotion, and isn’t sure why this bothers you. Makes up for it by caring for all of your practical needs.


Flirting: Either is entirely too vague in attempting to communicate that they like you or completely and straightforwardly tells you they like you- there is no in between.

Fling: Gets on a few dating apps and complains about it most of the time while swiping, though inevitably hooks up with one or two people before deciding casual dating is too much stress to deal with.

Relationship: Will let you inside their minds and have discussions with you on essentially any subject, idea, or theory- you will never have an inane conversation. Is insanely independent but definitely lets you know they enjoy your company. Not the most naturally emotional or affectionate person, but will take into account your specific needs and go out of their way to fulfill them. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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