(March 21st to April 19th)
Because you finally feel like you’re actively choosing to be with them instead of defaulting to it because you think it’s what they want. You don’t look at the relationship as a sentence or as a loss of your independence and freedom – you just feel like you’re gaining a partner to adventure through life with you, rather than feeling like you’re settling with someone who’s holding you back.
(April 20th to May 21st)
Because you’re finally not second-guessing every aspect of the relationship and wondering is this right, are they gonna leave me, what if we’re wrong for each other, how can I trust them? You just know, in your gut, that with them you feel like the most confident, happy, and secure version of yourself.
(May 22nd to June 21st)
Because you’re actually 100% yourself in front of them – for the first time ever in your dating life. You don’t feel the need to always be the fun, light, and lively version of you, which you had previously convinced yourself was the only way people would love you. Now, you feel like you can be that side of you, but you can also be the side that just needs to be down and off sometimes, and you know they’ll still love you anyways.
(June 22nd to July 22nd)
Because you’re no longer worried that you’re being taken advantage of. You have found someone who values the relationships in their lives more than anything else – just like you – so you are no longer stressing about whether or not they’re just taking advantage of your kindness and empathy. Finally, for once, you can be your thoughtful, open, and vulnerable self and know that they love you for you and not for what you can do for them.
(July 23rd to August 22nd)
Because you finally feel like you’re not totally in charge of the relationship, and even though that’s typically your comfort zone, you know it’s not healthy. You’re used to getting your way, running your love life, and having control over everything. But with this person, you’ve finally met your match – someone who will both stand up to you and support you, challenge you and encourage you. You’ve never experienced anything like it, and although it’s intimidating and foreign, it’s also the best and most vulnerable you’ve ever felt.
(August 23rd to September 22nd)
Because this person is the first person you’ve ever dated who makes you understand why people go through the hard aspects of love. In the past, you’ve only found dating and relationships to be constantly stressful, disheartening, and anxiety-inducing. And although this current love still makes you feel out of balance and out of your comfort zone, the amount of happiness, comfort, care, and total acceptance you feel from your partner makes it totally worth it.
(September 23rd to October 22nd)
Because you’ve finally stopped worrying about whether ‘settling down’ with them means you’re missing out on other opportunities. In the past you’ve always had commitment issues because you had such bad Fear Of Missing Out, but you’ve finally met someone that you love and connect with so much that you can’t even imagine your life without them. Choosing to be with them in no way feels like settling – it just feels like you’re choosing the path that will bring you the most happiness.
(October 23rd to November 22nd)
Because for once, you actually find yourself wanting to open up and share your life with someone. You are used to attracting people pretty easily while always keeping them at a safe distance – feeling more in control and secure when you keep your life fairly secret and private from the people you’re dating. But with this person, you have an urge to open up, to stop being so secretive and stubborn, and to enjoy the feeling of becoming vulnerable and falling hard for someone you trust enough to treat your heart well.
(November 23rd to December 21st)
Because you feel like you actually want to be practical and serious about your love life for once. In the past, you’ve preferred being more carefree, nonchalant, and vague about your relationship or relationships. You liked having open possibilities and dating situations that were constantly up in the air. But now, for the first time, you feel like you actually want to commit – like you want to define the relationship, articulate what you want, and put yourself out there, instead of just another situation where you “see what happens.”
(December 22nd to January 20th)
Because love no longer makes you tired. You’ve stopped feeling like you’re with someone who never quite gets you, and you’ve stopped feeling like you keep having to help them understand who you are. Instead, you’re with someone who simply understands you, often without you even needing to say anything.
(January 21st to February 18th)
Because you’re no longer trying to protect yourself, and you’re no longer looking at love in such dire terms. In the past, a lot of the effort in your dating life went to maintaining your walls, and opening up just enough but never far below the surface level. This was because your heart never felt fully safe with anyone before, until now. Now, you’re still feeling scared and intimidated and vulnerable as hell, but you’re feeling it with someone who you feel so connected with, so joyful with, and so safe with that you’re willing to take the risk of getting hurt. They’re worth it.
(February 19th to March 20th)
Because you feel like this person has woken you up. In the past, you’ve been comfortable with being more passive, never fully making decisions one way or another, and just letting things happen. And now, suddenly, this person has come into your life and made you curious and excited and like you’re suddenly feeling a craving for taking your life back into your own hands. They make you feel like the best version of yourself, and you never want to go back to the way things used to be before they came into your life.