The Unedited Truth About Why You’re Alone, Based On Your Zodiac Sign

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(March 21st to April 19th)

You’re alone because you don’t know how to handle relationships when they go from the passionate ‘falling’ phase into the steady commitment phase. 

When you are in love, you’re bursting and infectious and you want to tell everyone you know. But once that butterfly-inducing stage has morphed into something more comfortable and more routine-like, you completely freak out and don’t know how to handle the closeness.


(April 20th to May 21st)

You’re alone because you keep trying to control your own love life. 

Instead of coming to terms with the fact that love is something fairly unpredictable that takes the commitment of two people, you want to run the whole thing yourself and treat love like a formula. You have no problem with giving off plenty of warmth and love, but you struggle with learning how to simply let things happen and how to just enjoy the process.


(May 22nd to June 21st)

You’re alone because you won’t give yourself permission to open up to someone, even when they’ve made it very clear that they care about you.

You’re very easy to be around and easy to love, but you don’t know how to let people below the surface. You won’t let yourself fully be you in front of whoever you’re dating, and are convinced that you’re going to get hurt – which in turn always keeps you and whoever you’re dating from going deeper and giving the relationship a fighting chance.


(June 22nd to July 22nd)

You’re alone because you keep giving your heart to the wrong people. 

You’re always drawn to the types who initially seem great, but who always end up breaking your heart by taking you for granted or never giving you the same amount of love you give to them. And you’re afraid to address this type of issue, preferring to sweep it under the rug and to only pay attention to the good things in your partner – which means eventually you always get blindsided when they end up toying with your heart.


(July 23rd to August 22nd)

You’re alone because you try to plan out your relationship the same way you plan out everything else in your life. 

Unlike your career, your dreams, and your passions, you can’t set your love life up on a five year or ten year plan. You’re a hardworking and focused individual, and your instinct is to manage your relationships the same way you manage everything else in your life. But what you need to realize about relationships is that they are complicated and ever-changing things, involving not one but two personalities and two brains and two sets of hopes and dreams and plans.


(August 23rd to September 22nd)

You’re alone because you lose yourself in and obsess over all of the ‘what if’s’ that exist in your relationships.

Even when you’re happy in a relationship, your brain’s instinct – in order to protect you – is to come up with all the reasons why your relationship can’t work or why it’s inevitably going to go wrong. You end up letting your overthinking control the relationship, which prevents you from going all-in and taking a risk with someone that could have possibly been the right person for you.


(September 23rd to October 22nd)

You’re alone because you’re too distracted by what else is out there to willingly commit to one person. 

Your issue has nothing to do with being able to meet people – you are irresistible and are constantly drawing people towards you. Your problem is that you’re addicted to the chase; you love the thrill of dating a lot of people and falling for people and having that sense of wonder and newness in your relationships. But once things get steady, you run the other way. Until you’re comfortable with letting go of the chase and focusing on just one person, you’re going to be alone.


(October 23rd to November 22nd)

You’re alone because you won’t give yourself permission to need someone else. 

You are so independent and self-reliant that you aren’t used to needing other people. You’re not comfortable with being vulnerable and leaning on others, but that’s one of the most important (and most special) parts of a relationship. Once you acknowledge that it’s okay to trust other people and that you deserve happiness, you’ll have a much easier time with your love life.


(November 23rd to December 21st)

You’re alone because you’re not assertive enough about what you want.

You are so used to going with the flow – which is great in other parts of your life, but not in your love life. It’s wonderful that you’re so optimistic and hopeful about your love life, but sometimes that drifts into the dangerous territory of being too passive or lackadaisical. You need to concentrate on being more decisive and focused in terms of what you want and what you’re looking for.


(December 22nd to January 20th)

You’re alone because you’re convinced that you always have to be 100% logical when it comes to love. 

Understandably, you want to protect yourself and you don’t want to waste your time when it comes to dating. It’s perfectly fine (and even important) to have standards, to be realistic, and to know what you want in terms of your love life. But you want to be wary of treating love like a science. Remember that it’s possible to be both optimistic and practical about love.


(January 21st to February 18th)

You’re alone because you’re terrified of emotional intimacy. 

Instead of putting all your energy towards opening up and getting to know your partner on a deeper level, you waste it all with trying to close yourself off. Although you’re doing it to protect yourself, you’re only causing yourself an unnecessary amount of pain.


(February 19th to March 20th)

You’re alone because you keep letting other people tell you what you want instead of deciding for yourself. 

You’re always trying to make everyone around you comfortable and happy by being a good listener, being open, and being your typical compassionate self. But that can be problematic for your love life when you don’t know how to tell your (well-intentioned) loved ones that your love life is your decision, not theirs. You’ll have a lot more luck when you start sticking up for yourself and making your dating decisions based on what YOU want. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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