(March 21st to April 19th)
During a dating rut, you run around with an even busier schedule than normal.
The whole concept of ‘slowing down’ or ‘taking some time to yourself’ when you’re struggling in any area of your life is completely foreign to you. Rather than sit around feeling lonely or sad, you find that you cope much faster and more efficiently if you’re filling your schedule with trips, fun classes, and nights out with friends.
(April 20th to May 21st)
During a dating rut, you seek quality time with the people you feel closest to.
You’re not against the stereotypical ‘dating rut’ coping techniques – chocolate, sad movies, living in sweatpants, etc. But what you find much more comforting is organizing hangouts with your friends and family. Sometimes, it’s about venting your dating frustrations and seeking their advice, but sometimes, you just want to be near your closest friends or siblings because that alone gives you an automatic sense of peace and comfort, regardless of whether or not you even talk about dating problems.
(May 22nd to June 21st)
During a dating rut, you say ‘yes’ to everything in order to avoid your own thoughts.
You always make sure your social life is whole and fulfilling regardless of your relationship status (whether you’re single, in a relationship, or in the ‘talking’ phase – you’re always having fun and meeting new people). But this can get tricky when you say ‘yes’ to way too many things just so you can avoid being alone with your own thoughts or acknowledging any feelings of loneliness, frustration, or dating exhaustion you may be experiencing. You tend to be around people constantly, all while bottling up the very thing you’re itching to talk about.
(June 22nd to July 22nd)
During a dating rut, you’re mostly weighed down by ‘what if’s’ and by hypothetical questions that drive you crazy.
Most of your dating struggles comes from the fact that it’s very difficult for you to let go of and move on from past romantic problems. You’re always imagining what could have been, or wondering if you made the right move, or spending a lot of your time ruminating on something that happened eight months ago instead of concentrating on putting yourself out there again and remembering to live in the moment.
(July 23rd to August 22nd)
During a dating rut, you transfer all your focus onto your work.
Having a hard time meeting people? On a frustrating break with your significant other? Unable to avoid a revolving door of awful first dates? Your automatic instinct is to put all of your energy, time, and brain power into whatever is happening at your job. You spend no time trying to figure out what isn’t working, and instead take all of that extra power and aim it towards your career. It can certainly make your romantic life a little difficult, but it’s always a good time at work when this happens.
(August 23rd to September 22nd)
During a dating rut, you get weighed down by a million hypothetical situations and by overthinking all the reasons why you might never meet someone.
Your brain seems to sense that you’re having anxiety about your romantic troubles, and rather than trying to shut it down, instead decides that it’s a good idea to obsess over all the negative possibilities that may be awaiting you during future dates or relationships. You have a very difficult time just ‘sitting back and seeing what happens’ and are way more likely to be awake at 3 in the morning worrying about whether or not you’ll have a date to your sister’s wedding that’s in 11 months from now.
(September 23rd to October 22nd)
During a dating rut, your flirtation abilities skyrocket and you end up being that one person at the party who becomes best friends with everyone by the end of the night.
Nothing makes you feel better than meeting new people, being social, and having a different event in your calendar every single night. So while you’re in the middle of a particularly frustrating dating period, your social butterfly instinct goes on overload. It can be a great way to show you how much fun you can have on your own, but sometimes you jump so distractedly from one thing to another that the connections you’re making don’t feel as meaningful and genuine as they normally are.
(October 23rd to November 22nd)
During a dating rut, you close yourself off and stop leaning on the people you love, because you’re convinced it’s just easier this way.
You’re certainly a very magnetic and alluring person, but if you’ve recently gone through an upsetting or difficult romantic situation, your protective instincts kick in and you think it’s best to withdraw from those who care about you and stick more to yourself. The right friend can always get through to you and help you pull yourself out, but it takes some effort.
(November 23rd to December 21st)
During a date rut, you get extremely dependent on your own positivity and ‘happy’ nature.
You’re used to being the fun, lights-up-the-party kind of person, and so oftentimes, when you’re hurting, you end up overstraining this side of yourself. You know that your sense of humor and your attractive and positive outlook on life are the things that draw people to you, so when you are feeling particularly alone or stuck, you end up exhausting yourself with your own self-imposed pressure to be ‘fun’ or ‘exciting’ or ‘happy all the time’ because otherwise, you worry that you’ll lose everyone around you.
(December 22nd to January 20th)
During a dating rut, you get caught up in comparing your own timeline (both romantically and professionally) with those of all your peers.
Your strong sense of ambition and practicality are extremely useful in many areas of your life, but when it comes to your dating life, these tendencies can sometimes be detrimental. Although you always try to avoid it, sometimes your brain can’t help but obsessively comparing where you are in your dating life to that of others around you – siblings, friends, old roommates, etc. You get stressed out every time you see an anniversary post or an engagement photo, because you instantly can’t help but think that you’re far behind – even though you know, logically, that your life is unfolding exactly the way it’s supposed to, just like everyone else’s.
(January 21st to February 18th)
During a dating rut, you shut down emotionally, out of self-preservation.
You live as honestly and as authentically as you can, and these traits are almost always people’s favorite things about you. But when it comes to addressing your own emotions, your instinct is to becoming detached and remote about the things that you’re feeling. You find it easier to just temporarily shrink back into your old habits, rather than put yourself immediately back out there, after you’ve gone through a rough breakup or have experienced a dating disappointment in one way or another.
(February 19th to March 20th)
During a dating rut, you start putting your faith in the wrong people.
When you are romantically frustrated, you tend to start hanging out again with selfish and fair-weather friends, or you go on dates with/hang out with the types of romantic prospects you wouldn’t normally ever give the time of day to (flaky, self-involved people). Your compassion and kindness are some of your best qualities, but when you give the benefit of the doubt to people who don’t deserve it, it takes you a while to get back on your feet and start only giving your time to people who truly deserve it rather than wasting your time on egocentric duds.