(March 21st to April 19th)
Putting serious and conscious thought into every decision that you make. It’s great that you are always so spontaneous and instantly ready to take on the next adventure life offers you, but there’s a certain point where spontaneity turns into impulsivity in a negative way. Instead of always saying ‘yes’ to everything, spend 2017 making educated and well-thought-out decisions on what the best move is for you, your career, your relationships, etc. You’ll see that things may change more slowly, but the results will most likely be much more effective and beneficial when it comes to living the kind of life you’re striving towards.
(April 20th to May 21st)
Make peace with the fact that you cannot change the behavior of other people, that you can only make choices for yourself. As soon as you do this, your stress and responsibility load and your worries over tiny things will greatly lessen. Because you’re a warmhearted and loving person, you have a tendency to want to make everyone happy and fix everything for everyone. It’s an admirable way of thinking, but it’s impossible to maintain and is the reason why you frequently feel so frustrated and anxious. By all means, continue to be your compassionate self, but understand that the best you can do is offer your help and support to others and that it’s up to them if they want to take it.
(May 22nd to June 21st)
Stop trying to be ‘on’ all the time. It’s great that you often tend to be the life of the party, and the people around you certainly appreciate that aspect of your personality. But you also have to understand that they will love the other side of you too, the one that gets stressed and anxious and insecure just like everyone else. The minute you give yourself the freedom to start being human and vulnerable and sometimes even sad in front of others, you will feel a huge weight lifted off of you.
(June 22nd to July 22nd)
Start taking care of and worrying about yourself as much as you do that for other people. Because of your intuitive nature, it’s easy for you to read just about anyone and to instinctively focus all of your attention on them and helping them feel good and happy. But the consequence of that is that you often forget to take care of yourself and to pay attention to and explore your own emotional needs and wants. You don’t have to change your sympathetic and warm nature, but you do have to make sure that you keep some room in there for your own mental and emotional wellbeing.
(July 23rd to August 22nd)
Start being more self-aware of your intensity. For the most part, it’s fantastic. Friends and family and coworkers love your bottomless enthusiasm, your itch for creativity, and your unique way of thinking and of tackling problems. But you have to make an effort to start being more flexible and adaptable to other types of personalities and other ways of thinking, so that your passion and enthusiasm don’t overwhelm others.
(August 23rd to September 22nd)
Stop being so damn hard on yourself. You have an incredible work ethic, plenty of intelligence, and a consistent reliability that always attracts others to you. But when you obsess over the little things and critique yourself for tiny, insignificant ‘mistakes’ that you’re convinced are causing chaos when they’re absolutely not, you end up losing sight of the bigger picture. Sit back, relax, trust your own diligence and adequacy, and see how much more joy it brings you in your work life, hobbies, relationships, etc.
(September 23rd to October 22nd)
Accept the fact that not everyone is going to like you and that there’s nothing you can do about it. Because you’re used to charming the pants off anyone, it can be difficult for you to adjust when someone is cold or closed-off towards you, but when you spend so much of your time trying to win them over or on figuring out why they apparently dislike you, you’re wasting ample amounts of time and energy that you could have spent on people that love you and care about you and want to be around you. Come to peace with the fact that no person on this earth is liked by everyone, and you’re no exception, and this is totally okay.
(October 23rd to November 22nd)
Focus on combatting your tendency to obsess over things you cannot change. You’re a very powerful and successful person, but sometimes things are just not going to work out perfectly in your corner. Sometimes it’s your fault, sometimes it’s totally out of your control. What you need to focus on this year is letting go of bitterness over things you cannot change, and instead channel you’re energy into figuring out what you can learn from these kinds of instances and how you can use them to your advantage by improving in a way you would never have been able to if you had experienced easy and instant success.
(November 23rd to December 21st)
Spend this next year resolving to be more proactive about your life and your choices. You’re highly optimistic and a glass-half-full kind of person, and that’s fantastic. People love being around you for your good humor and positivity. But as weird as this may sound, you also have to work less on ‘giving it up to the universe’, because it often causes you to unintentionally lean towards passivity in your life. There’s nothing wrong with believing in a higher power or karma or that everything happens for a reason, but it doesn’t mean you can sit back and assume someone else will take over your life and your puppet strings and that it will ‘all work out.’ You can still be one with the universe or with whatever higher power you believe in while still taking action and using your talents to improve your life and the lives of those around you.
(December 22nd to January 20th)
Stop leaning on your practicality and logic like it’s a crutch. The world is nuts and it’s good to be realistic and cautious, but not to the point where you’ll refrain from taking a different path or trying something new because ‘that would be irresponsible.’ Some of the most life-changing things we experience happen when we’re brave enough to step out of line and listen to our gut, and you have to start giving yourself the freedom to do that instead of living your life with such extreme rigidity.
(January 21st to February 18th)
Give yourself permission to be emotional, to get attached to things, to put your heart into causes or hobbies or a job or people that you truly love and care about. Trying to maintain an air of neutrality and detachment is obviously safe, but you’re missing out on so much when you try to coach your mind into functioning this way, especially when our instinct as humans is so strongly geared towards vulnerability, emotion, and feeling. Just let go and let yourself live a little.
(February 19th to March 20th)
Commit to actual things you can do now, today, that will have a tangible effect on your life. You have an incredible mind and an incredible heart, but you tend to only let yourself live in your own reality of idealistic dreaming, of thinking about things you’d love to do but never actually trying them (in order to preserve the dream in your mind in case you were to fail in real life). So instead of keeping those secret dreams or goals tucked safely away in your mind, actually try some of them. Sign up for that online dating site you’ve been observing for months, take that personal enrichment class that your work is offering, give yourself a staycation, start your Etsy shop, whatever. It’s safer in your mind, sure, but it’s so much more incredible to try it in real life, even if you fail.