(March 21st to April 19th)
You put such a strong emphasis on being adventurous, independent, and in the pursuit of your own passions that sometimes you forget that a relationship consists of two people. You make your significant others feel like they’re at the bottom of your priorities list, and you have trouble comprehending the idea that you can be both in a relationship and be your own people outside of it.
(April 20th to May 21st)
You’re very loving and warm in a relationship, but there’s an extremely thin line between that and your jealousy issues. You often mistake your possessiveness as you simply caring about your partner, and even when they point it out and you see the issue, you are not good at apologizing.
(May 22nd to June 21st)
You have a serious problem with believing that someone could actually love you beneath your fun-loving, happy-go-lucky surface. You have no problem attracting people towards you, but you have trouble keeping them because you don’t know how to be serious (even just every once in a while) and how to be vulnerable enough to truly let someone in.
(June 22nd to July 22nd)
You’re very good at reading your partner and picking up on their moods and emotional needs, but you’re terrible at communicating your own feelings, worries, needs, frustrations, etc. Rather than calmly explaining to them why something is bothering you or hurting you, you just lash out and expect them to sort through the pieces and figure out everything on their own, without any assistance or clear communication from you.
(July 23rd to August 22nd)
While you can be incredibly loving and generous, your problem is that you think that excuses your behavior when you’re patronizing, condescending, or controlling. You also measure too much, and instead of doing something kind just to be kind and then forgetting about it, you subconsciously hold it over your partner’s head until they do something equally nice for you. You need to learn how to do loving things just to be loving, with no other motive.
(August 23rd to September 22nd)
Your tendency to look at love the same way you look at everything else – logistically and practically – often gets you in your own way, regardless of how well this behavior works in other areas of your life. You need to stop being overcritical of yourself as a partner and stop fussing and worrying over every. little. thing. Because rather than ‘helping’ your relationship, this obsessive attention to detail is only stressing your partners out and chasing them away.
(September 23rd to October 22nd)
You need to take ownership over your own relationships. Everyone loves an easygoing, relaxed, and optimistic person (aka you) but that doesn’t mean you can just sit back and assume everything relating to your relationship will just work itself out. Relationships take work, commitment, and effort, and if your partners continue to feel like they’re the only ones with a serious stake in this, they’re going to continue to have no desire to stay with you.
(October 23rd to November 22nd)
When you fall in love, you’re a passionate force. You’re excited, open, and all-in, and that’s great. But you need to remember that everyone falls in love at their own pace – everyone is different and not everyone is going to fall in love the same way you do. It would be beneficial to at least make sure you don’t waste your time on someone who isn’t looking for something serious. But once you’ve filtered through those types to the sort that you’re actually looking for, you still need to make sure you give them enough space to fall on their own time, and to make sure you’re not forcing anything.
(November 23rd to December 21st)
You love the can’t-breathe-can’t-think part of falling in love. The part where your endorphins are through the roof and everything is great and you are overcome with everything about this person. But you need to understand that love eventually changes into something more stable, steady, and slower-moving. Every time you’ve gotten to that stage, you get restless and confused about why you suddenly need to put in a little effort. Understand that that’s normal and be willing to do that when you’ve found the right person, or they’re going to leave, once again, because they feel like they’re not measuring up to your absurd and ever-changing expectations.
(December 22nd to January 20th)
You need to stop being so clinical about love. It’s great to be comfortable with commitment and exclusivity, but when you start looking at love as a timeline, with certain ways that everything is supposed to be done and how everything is supposed to happen, it takes all the magic out of love. Stop trying to control every aspect of the story, and just live within it instead of above it.
(January 21st to February 18th)
It’s important to you that you maintain your independence and your sense of self in your relationships, and that’s fantastic. It’s even crucial to the success of a long-term relationship. But you get so caught up in focusing on that, that you often unintentionally force yourself to be detached and disconnected from the other person, believing that this is the ‘healthy’ way to fall in love, when in reality, all it’s doing is crushing your chances of ever settling down with the right one.
(February 19th to March 20th)
You need to let go of your idealistic view of love and of your beliefs that it’s supposed to work in one specific, perfect way. Everyone falls in love differently, everyone’s relationship works differently, and although there are plenty of good and healthy ways to sustain a relationship, there’s no one, single, right way. Focus on your good qualities – compassion and sensitivity – and work on being the best partner you can be, instead of wasting time wondering why your relationship doesn’t look like this one or that one.